"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what should I do next?

RebelKB

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Hey Everyone,
Well here is my story.
I am in my second year of college, now on Mondays and Wednesdays I have back to back fittness classes with this girl. By the second day after classes she actually came up and introduced herself to me. She said how about that aerobics class.....and we exchanged names etc. All the way to our cars we chatted about our majors, class etc. In my second class of the day she sits right behind me, and after class we always end up walking back to our cars chitt-chatting. This has been going on for about 3 weeks now 2 days a week. What should be the next step, or what would be good for us to get to know each other better , lunch? I would really aprechiate any advice or tips to get to know her better, and keep things well. Thanks alot
RebelKB:)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BADA-BING

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Dude, she obviously likes you otherwise she wouldn't have approached you.

Go for it! Take her anywhere lunch, dinner, coffee whatever, just get her out somewhere with just you. Make sure you keep the date light-hearted. Have fun!
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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What Bada-Bing said.


The clock is ticking. If you want her, ask her out..... otherwise she'll think you're uninterested. 3 weeks is an awful long time to have not already asked her out.

If she declines, then just chalk it up to a friendly girl, and keep it at that.

Don't start second-guessing her IL.


The Bad Ass Canadian
 

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Oh, man..this give me the greatest Idea. I am not too sure this will work, but hell give it a try if you don't come up with something to say.


When talking to her to your car go "Hey, when are you going to ask me out?..You have been hitting on me for 3 weeks now and still no date. I am starting to lose interest. "

I am basically turning the whole situation around and using it against her. Most women get approach by guys and act shy and stuff. So they don't ask the lady out on a date and wait a while. Your just reverse the roles.

Also note:Worst case scenerio she says she wasn't hitting on you. Then say "Well, then we can just be friends".
 

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Originally posted by Unforsaken
When talking to her to your car go "Hey, when are you going to ask me out?..You have been hitting on me for 3 weeks now and still no date. I am starting to lose interest. "
That's awesome dude. never thought to look at it like that. def. would throw her off guard. great, great, great
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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