"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what should I do next?

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Hey Everyone,
Well here is my story.
I am in my second year of college, now on Mondays and Wednesdays I have back to back fittness classes with this girl. By the second day after classes she actually came up and introduced herself to me. She said how about that aerobics class.....and we exchanged names etc. All the way to our cars we chatted about our majors, class etc. In my second class of the day she sits right behind me, and after class we always end up walking back to our cars chitt-chatting. This has been going on for about 3 weeks now 2 days a week. What should be the next step, or what would be good for us to get to know each other better , lunch? I would really aprechiate any advice or tips to get to know her better, and keep things well. Thanks alot
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dude, she obviously likes you otherwise she wouldn't have approached you.

Go for it! Take her anywhere lunch, dinner, coffee whatever, just get her out somewhere with just you. Make sure you keep the date light-hearted. Have fun!
 
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What Bada-Bing said.


The clock is ticking. If you want her, ask her out..... otherwise she'll think you're uninterested. 3 weeks is an awful long time to have not already asked her out.

If she declines, then just chalk it up to a friendly girl, and keep it at that.

Don't start second-guessing her IL.


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Oh, man..this give me the greatest Idea. I am not too sure this will work, but hell give it a try if you don't come up with something to say.


When talking to her to your car go "Hey, when are you going to ask me out?..You have been hitting on me for 3 weeks now and still no date. I am starting to lose interest. "

I am basically turning the whole situation around and using it against her. Most women get approach by guys and act shy and stuff. So they don't ask the lady out on a date and wait a while. Your just reverse the roles.

Also note:Worst case scenerio she says she wasn't hitting on you. Then say "Well, then we can just be friends".
 
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Originally posted by Unforsaken
When talking to her to your car go "Hey, when are you going to ask me out?..You have been hitting on me for 3 weeks now and still no date. I am starting to lose interest. "
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That's awesome dude. never thought to look at it like that. def. would throw her off guard. great, great, great
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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