"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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what physical flaw(s) do you have?

david90

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No this is not another "does looks matter" thread :) .

For me, my ears kinda stick out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My flaws

I'm not that tall (5'8")

The bridge of my nose is slightly crooked from boxing (it's generally only noticeable in photos).
 

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Originally posted by david90
No this is not another "does looks matter" thread :) .

For me, my ears kinda stick out.
i am dirty becaus ive been too lazy to use soap in the shower for 3 days
 

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Uh, who cares who has what flaws? It shouldn't matter. I'm sure I have flaws that I can pick out... but since my confidence level has gone up tremendous amounts since high school, nobody seems willing to call me on them anymore. As a person, you just don't notice flaws with people unless you are looking for them. Ever notice how the more you get to know someone, the more you like their personality, the more their physical flaws tend to disappear?

Why even start a thread like this? Are you trying to feel better about yourself cause you don't want to feel like you're the only one with flaws? Just don't worry about it!
 

BLUEox117

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Originally posted by Skweints
Uh, who cares who has what flaws? It shouldn't matter. I'm sure I have flaws that I can pick out... but since my confidence level has gone up tremendous amounts since high school, nobody seems willing to call me on them anymore. As a person, you just don't notice flaws with people unless you are looking for them. Ever notice how the more you get to know someone, the more you like their personality, the more their physical flaws tend to disappear?

Why even start a thread like this? Are you trying to feel better about yourself cause you don't want to feel like you're the only one with flaws? Just don't worry about it!
maybe he has a 3rd degree burn on his face and hes got nowhere to get the money for plastic surgery (as most health plans dont cover that because its not life-saving surgery)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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The flaws that I'm most self conscious about are:

Stretch marks (from my days being overweight)
Frown lines
Hairy shoulders (though easy enough to shave or wax)

I've always been really self-critical when it comes to appearance, but I'm realising now I'm advantaged in so many ways, so I have no grounds to complain.
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
The flaws that I'm most self conscious about are:

Stretch marks (from my days being overweight)
Frown lines
Hairy shoulders (though easy enough to shave or wax)

I've always been really self-critical when it comes to appearance, but I'm realising now I'm advantaged in so many ways, so I have no grounds to complain.
yo stretch marks are not a flaw but a badge if you workout
and the rest of that crap is irrellevant
 

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Re: My flaws

Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
I'm not that tall (5'8")
Got ya beat. 5'4" here. And a very bad case of acne (incurable as of yet with any method with scars to boot)
 

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I feel ya, man

Hey sfalexi,

I actually used to have a severe problem with acne, too. It was so bad it actually hurt, and believe me, it really did a number on my self esteem. I had it dealt with about 5 years back with a 3 month cylce of Accutane. Talk to your doctor about it, I was ectstatic with the results.
 

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Re: I feel ya, man

Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
Hey sfalexi,

I actually used to have a severe problem with acne, too. It was so bad it actually hurt, and believe me, it really did a number on my self esteem. I had it dealt with about 5 years back with a 3 month cylce of Accutane. Talk to your doctor about it, I was ectstatic with the results.
I've done five cycles of accutane. Still got acne though. I'm down to the last resort (saving up money for laser resurfacing)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Re: Re: I feel ya, man

Originally posted by sfalexi
I've done five cycles of accutane. Still got acne though. I'm down to the last resort (saving up money for laser resurfacing)
how the hell is taht laser resurfacing supposed to work anyways?
 

So Many Ways

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A few.

I have 2 metal rods in both of my legs and I walk with a slight limp.

One leg is shorter than the other.

I have a bad shoulder I got from lifting weights several years ago.

Remember, physical flaws are only an issue if you make it an issue in your head, period.
 

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i have puffy cheeks, so if i cut my hair short i look like a little boy

but my hair is curly so if its a little longer it just curls up into a gross afro

so i have to keep it really long and its like, a pretty big fro


lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BLUEox117

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Originally posted by Baruch
Hm,

Overbite\crooked teeth
Weak jawline
acne scars

i look ok in pictures though, with my mouth closed.

you look pimp
get out there.
 

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NECK

When I was young I spent every fukcing minute surfing, as a result I burned the shyte out of my neck, just above the wetsuit mark. As a result my skin lacks elasticity there. It is only noticeable when I draw attention to it.

Now, I draw a lot of attention to it, to chicks. I'll grab it and say "shyte I hate this, look at it" The they'll start with the "Oh, thats nothing look at my "whatever" and there you go, they are self deprecating in no time. My job is to pinpoint the insecurity and play it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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