"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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what physical flaw(s) do you have?

david90

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No this is not another "does looks matter" thread :) .

For me, my ears kinda stick out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My flaws

I'm not that tall (5'8")

The bridge of my nose is slightly crooked from boxing (it's generally only noticeable in photos).
 

BLUEox117

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Originally posted by david90
No this is not another "does looks matter" thread :) .

For me, my ears kinda stick out.
i am dirty becaus ive been too lazy to use soap in the shower for 3 days
 

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Uh, who cares who has what flaws? It shouldn't matter. I'm sure I have flaws that I can pick out... but since my confidence level has gone up tremendous amounts since high school, nobody seems willing to call me on them anymore. As a person, you just don't notice flaws with people unless you are looking for them. Ever notice how the more you get to know someone, the more you like their personality, the more their physical flaws tend to disappear?

Why even start a thread like this? Are you trying to feel better about yourself cause you don't want to feel like you're the only one with flaws? Just don't worry about it!
 

BLUEox117

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Originally posted by Skweints
Uh, who cares who has what flaws? It shouldn't matter. I'm sure I have flaws that I can pick out... but since my confidence level has gone up tremendous amounts since high school, nobody seems willing to call me on them anymore. As a person, you just don't notice flaws with people unless you are looking for them. Ever notice how the more you get to know someone, the more you like their personality, the more their physical flaws tend to disappear?

Why even start a thread like this? Are you trying to feel better about yourself cause you don't want to feel like you're the only one with flaws? Just don't worry about it!
maybe he has a 3rd degree burn on his face and hes got nowhere to get the money for plastic surgery (as most health plans dont cover that because its not life-saving surgery)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The flaws that I'm most self conscious about are:

Stretch marks (from my days being overweight)
Frown lines
Hairy shoulders (though easy enough to shave or wax)

I've always been really self-critical when it comes to appearance, but I'm realising now I'm advantaged in so many ways, so I have no grounds to complain.
 

BLUEox117

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Originally posted by Jariel
The flaws that I'm most self conscious about are:

Stretch marks (from my days being overweight)
Frown lines
Hairy shoulders (though easy enough to shave or wax)

I've always been really self-critical when it comes to appearance, but I'm realising now I'm advantaged in so many ways, so I have no grounds to complain.
yo stretch marks are not a flaw but a badge if you workout
and the rest of that crap is irrellevant
 

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Re: My flaws

Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
I'm not that tall (5'8")
Got ya beat. 5'4" here. And a very bad case of acne (incurable as of yet with any method with scars to boot)
 

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I feel ya, man

Hey sfalexi,

I actually used to have a severe problem with acne, too. It was so bad it actually hurt, and believe me, it really did a number on my self esteem. I had it dealt with about 5 years back with a 3 month cylce of Accutane. Talk to your doctor about it, I was ectstatic with the results.
 

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Re: I feel ya, man

Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
Hey sfalexi,

I actually used to have a severe problem with acne, too. It was so bad it actually hurt, and believe me, it really did a number on my self esteem. I had it dealt with about 5 years back with a 3 month cylce of Accutane. Talk to your doctor about it, I was ectstatic with the results.
I've done five cycles of accutane. Still got acne though. I'm down to the last resort (saving up money for laser resurfacing)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BLUEox117

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Re: Re: I feel ya, man

Originally posted by sfalexi
I've done five cycles of accutane. Still got acne though. I'm down to the last resort (saving up money for laser resurfacing)
how the hell is taht laser resurfacing supposed to work anyways?
 

So Many Ways

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A few.

I have 2 metal rods in both of my legs and I walk with a slight limp.

One leg is shorter than the other.

I have a bad shoulder I got from lifting weights several years ago.

Remember, physical flaws are only an issue if you make it an issue in your head, period.
 

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i have puffy cheeks, so if i cut my hair short i look like a little boy

but my hair is curly so if its a little longer it just curls up into a gross afro

so i have to keep it really long and its like, a pretty big fro


lol
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BLUEox117

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Originally posted by Baruch
Hm,

Overbite\crooked teeth
Weak jawline
acne scars

i look ok in pictures though, with my mouth closed.

you look pimp
get out there.
 

Sart

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NECK

When I was young I spent every fukcing minute surfing, as a result I burned the shyte out of my neck, just above the wetsuit mark. As a result my skin lacks elasticity there. It is only noticeable when I draw attention to it.

Now, I draw a lot of attention to it, to chicks. I'll grab it and say "shyte I hate this, look at it" The they'll start with the "Oh, thats nothing look at my "whatever" and there you go, they are self deprecating in no time. My job is to pinpoint the insecurity and play it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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