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what percentage of men don't get nervous at all?

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guys, I asked a simple and to the point question.
the reply should be one word. 20% or 10% or 5%
I didn't ask to be ridiculed
I didn't ask if YOU personally get nervous or not
and chances are if you have to boast on a forum about how awesome you are, you are one of those fat guys who sit at the coffee shop and play games all day.
The way you framed it waa softer then baby ****. You announced you envy another man. That's homo. Then you asked for random stats instead of something actionable. Advice on how to execute. You basically want a stat to justify your pathetic existence and Internet porn collection.

The value could have been offered by admitted to crying and using your tears a lubricant.
 

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If it's one girl no matter how hot I don't get nervous...groups make me more nervous or just lots of bystanders eavesdropping but after the first two or three approaches I genuinely dgaf and can approach any group...

My and my brother used to play a good game while out and about....we called it the pointing game....the rule is simple I point to a girl he has to go approach with zero time to hesitate then he does for me... The loser is the first person who hesitates until it's too late and the girl is gone......try it with your friend sometime....it really does put u into an approach machine mindset for the day zero attachments to outcome. Doesn't matter if it's a 10 walking with a group of girks or a 2 all by herself....we usually only target the very hottest though of course...I like to throw in a fatty or but ugly chick every once in a while for laughs though...is extra funny of he gets rejected by the fatty llllol

Do this all day long and you both will rack up numbers trust me...50 plus approaches each is a good number.
 

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Men with no social anxiety and a realistic view of women. Men who fit into that category are pretty rare to come by.

Most guys have social anxiety nowadays, and many are blue pilled. It's hard to be confident with women if you have either one of those things.
 

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If I'm out working all day, talking to everyone... Talking to the hottest chicks is no problem since I'm already warmed up, and have no scoring agenda.

Sometimes, I'm amazed on how things go.
 

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the rule is always if something is new or out of normal you will get altered, so what you do? you keep doing said thing till you can work

I give, I can skydive, do rafting any of this things, and I don't feel a thing, but when I tend to care too much for a woman I can feel a little uneasy, but I still move on, when I don't care much works the better.

so just keep working on it, the more you do the more you will start to feel numb.

but getting something is not really that bad, as long you don't just freeze
 

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I have never had an anxiety problem when it comes to women, but I know it's real. I used to see it in my friends when we would go out to meet women. I was raised by my grandfather he would approach any woman he was attracted to like it was nothing, and I suppose I just learned from him without really knowing it. He used to say, "Well now, look at her... let's see if she likes me." The off he would go.... He got shot down a lot... A LOT. But it never phased him at all, his attitude was that she just didn't like him, and all it cost him was 5 minutes to find out.

I believe the key is not to get ahead of yourself. All negative emotion has at it's foundation expectation. Too many guys head out with the INTENT to get laid or find a girlfriend. They see a chick they like and immediately start getting ahead of themselves, and they don't want to be disappointed when things don't go as hoped.

My advice is to just go up to people, start conversations, and see what happens. If things go well and a woman happens to like you, then you have something to work with, its a win-win, she either likes you or she doesn't and you found out and can clear your mind of her.... Schrodinger's Cat comes to mind... the only way to find out is to open the box. The best advice I can give any man when dating is to believe that no one woman is batter than any other, and until you actually agrees to spend time with you alone, she is nothing.
 

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I agree that men in Western countries tend to have more fear of approaching women than men in more male-dominated countries. I think that part of this fear is the fear of being judged by society - considered a creep, a pervert or whatever negative label men fear having applied to them. Whereas there are countries where men feel no shame in approaching women and expressing their interest and if they get shot down they just laugh and continue approaching women. It makes me think that approach anxiety could be not so much a fear of the girl's reaction, but a fear of how society will judge you and obviously hat would be different depending what society you're from.
 

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If you're asking what percentage of men experience zero neurotism, you're talking about the sociopath/psychopath spectrum. In fact, there's evidence that being completely fearless can lead to a short life, or at least, a short life outside a cage.

Most people experience a little nervousness, the first time or two they do something new, especially if that thing can lead to public embarrassment; that's why public speaking is the greatest fear of the most people. I'd say that delivering a speech you wrote, from a podium, in front of thousands of strangers, should produce more nervousness than saying "hello" to one stranger. If you experience crippling nervousness talking to strangers with vaginas, you need to do it a lot more often.

Someone who still experiences nervousness doing something he does routinely is either a neurotic or is doing something he probably shouldn't be doing...like bank robbing or lion taming.
It's a good point you made about public speaking. I am indeed one of the people that always got nervous speaking in front of crowds.
Given, however, that my job demands it, and actually in front of very high-pressure audiences, I have gotten partly desensitized to it.
Ever since this happened, I noticed I also find it much easier to talk to a stranger, since the amount of adrenaline rush is much lower in that case. Win-win.
 

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I agree that men in Western countries tend to have more fear of approaching women than men in more male-dominated countries. I think that part of this fear is the fear of being judged by society - considered a creep, a pervert or whatever negative label men fear having applied to them. Whereas there are countries where men feel no shame in approaching women and expressing their interest and if they get shot down they just laugh and continue approaching women. It makes me think that approach anxiety could be not so much a fear of the girl's reaction, but a fear of how society will judge you and obviously hat would be different depending what society you're from.
Yes. Approach anxiety has very little to do with fear of rejection. A typical rejection is nothing. She just ignores you or gives you one-word answers.

The nervous guy is more concerned about her overreacting and making a scene that could embarrass the guy at best or get him attacked by some white knight guy and/or booted from the bar/club at worst. Drunk women (and men) are unpredictable. They can range from super friendly to total azzholes.
 

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That sounds more like a response an exhibitionist would get, rather than one elicited by, "what's your name?" What kind of a childhood was had by someone anticipating such a response?
Understood. I'm not here to say how probable such an event is. Just explaining how some more neurotic guys think.
 

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I have a friend who doesn't get nervous at all when going up to a random girl and talking to her. it doesn't move him at all. his heartbeat doesn't change. he can go talk to a 10. no problem.
I am jealous of him and he is kind of my hero. But I am just wondering how unique this guy is? is it a big deal? should he be my hero?
what percentage of men in USA don't get nervous?
I don't want to influence the answer but most of the men that I know pretend like they don't get nervous, but when it comes down to it, they make up an excuse "she is not my type" "it wasn't the right situation"
I don't get nervous at all on first dates with OLD chicks
 
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