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what percentage of men don't get nervous at all?

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I don’t get nervous talking to random women anymore. I don’t do the typical “hi how are you” or “you look good today” lines, plenty of simps for that. I open with humor. And I can tell by looking at a woman with 90% accuracy which ones will think I’m funny and which ones won’t. Bytchy looking ones I don’t bother. Any others I start and don’t even think about it. Tonight’s convo with girl in gas station line who was cashing in a lotto ticket :

LL: So are you a millionaire?
HB: No just a 5-dollar-in aire
LL: well that’s better than a kick in the butt
HB: haha I never thought of it like that I suppose so
LL: well good luck spend it quickly before before our broke State (Illinois) takes it back from you

Several people in line behind us laughed and chuckled, men and women

this is the kind of random stuff I do
 

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I don't think the cause of nervousness is wanting to impress women necessarily. Keeping in mind that younger guys tend to get more nervous around women, I think it's more that they're not sure how to handle the increased influx of hormones.
 

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It might be more prevalent in America. I have friends who are good looking, fit, successful, but when in the presence of the biggest attention wh0re you will ever run into, they become supplicating. They'll say stuff like "At least she said hi to me."

I don't know what happened in America to turn men this way, but I see it all around me. Which is why I quickly change the topic whenever my guy friends talk about women. 90% of the time, it's some form of worshiping.

In other countries, the women stay in the kitchen and talk about their tv shows. In America, the women are the center of attention and guys compete in just about every single social environment.

Guys come out in droves and bombard every thing that isn't totally fat and disgusting in every club, every venue, every social media platform, etc.

On instagram, you have moms taking booty pics of herself half naked with their kids in the background looking traumatized and if you said anything, a hundred white knights would come to her rescue and say she is just expressing her confidence.

It sounds unbelievable but American women have lost all shame and most guys are completely supplicating.

If sosuave existed in Asia, the topics would probably not be this hardcore. It would probably center around career/finance, government policies, a good place to raise families, good vacation spots, etc. You probably won't see the biggoals of the world, lol. 90% of posters would probably be completely normal. Most topics would probably be about real relationship issues and not BDP or how to get out of being an incel.
For many Swedish men, they find living, fvcking and dating in Sweden extremely difficult (and it's true that Swedish women are more masculine) but for me it was the easiest place to get laid.

The women were aggressive.

The more aggressive women are in a particular society the more easier it is.

Even if I've not worked in an extended period in America, its reasonable to conclude that a man who displays the bare minimum of masculinity will have a good number of women vying for his attention in those societies.

But then even those hybrids that's in touch with their feminine side aka metrosexual males in Sweden is getting laid but gets bullied mercilessly as their relationship grows.
 

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This is my observation also. Where I'm from most people pair off into couples, and some are left out of course. Then there are the people who like to have multiple partners (and many of these are married). So it's certainly wrong to say 80% of men can't get laid. But I think what is meant by the 80/20 rule is that the "players" are banging multiple women, so maybe most guys have one girlfriend, but some guys are banging two girls a month or more. So that's 24 in a year, let's say. So when they say 20% of the guys are doing 80% of the banging, I don't find that hard to believe.
If that's the case then I agree.

However it must be noted that many men who can fvck plenty of women if they so chooses JUST won't since they're chosen to lead a different lifestyle.
 

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For many Swedish men, they find living, fvcking and dating in Sweden extremely difficult (and it's true that Swedish women are more masculine) but for me it was the easiest place to get laid.

The women were aggressive.

The more aggressive women are in a particular society the more easier it is.

Even if I've not worked in an extended period in America, its reasonable to conclude that a man who displays the bare minimum of masculinity will have a good number of women vying for his attention in those societies.

But then even those hybrids that's in touch with their feminine side aka metrosexual males in Sweden is getting laid but gets bullied mercilessly as their relationship grows.
Yeah I meant was it seems like 20% just have the right frame and the other 80% get to fvck too but something is off about them. You can see it when their gf's yell at them in public or flirt with you right in front of their faces. Their "goal" is a relationship but it seems as if they sacrificed everything else just to be in it. And when they lose the girl, it takes a miracle for them to find another one.

Sometimes I am astounded myself at the level of supplication. Even with some of my friends. A bartender gives out her number to everyone and talks to a friend of mines for 5 seconds and he's bragging about it as if her status as bartender is special.

And I'm like what the heck is going on? How is my friend successful in every other area but so pathetic with women?

Or I'd be at the doctor's office getting a check up and I'll see a male doctor fumbling his words and trying to be funny in front of the female receptionist. You can see the divorce rape in his future.

So while people do pair off. Most of it is surface level. Once you get to know them you see all the cracks and 90% of the time, the guy already lost his backbone - or never had it to begin with.
 
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guys, I asked a simple and to the point question.
the reply should be one word. 20% or 10% or 5%
I didn't ask to be ridiculed
I didn't ask if YOU personally get nervous or not
and chances are if you have to boast on a forum about how awesome you are, you are one of those fat guys who sit at the coffee shop and play games all day.
You want stats, you make a poll!
Are you nervous with women?
-Yes.
-No.
-I don't give a fvck!
 

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Keep approaching, keep interacting with women, keep escalating. You do it enough times and you can knock out most of that anxiety.
I used to chat up anybody, didn't matter if I was attracted to them or not. It helped hone my conversation skills and decrease my approach anxiety. I spent a lot of time in strip clubs conversing with women which helped immensely. Practice makes perfect. IF you aren't a natural, you have to practice more until it becomes natural.
 

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They poop, just like us.:p
 

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I have a friend who doesn't get nervous at all when going up to a random girl and talking to her. it doesn't move him at all. his heartbeat doesn't change. he can go talk to a 10. no problem.
I am jealous of him and he is kind of my hero. But I am just wondering how unique this guy is? is it a big deal? should he be my hero?
what percentage of men in USA don't get nervous?
I don't want to influence the answer but most of the men that I know pretend like they don't get nervous, but when it comes down to it, they make up an excuse "she is not my type" "it wasn't the right situation"
Not doing it right kuz.

Envy is gay. I simply don't give a ****. Its blow me or blow me out. Smash or next. Repeat till dead or **** falls off.

Today's 10 is a broken condom or cheese burger away from expiration. She is assuming she's fabulous because og ig likes and photoshop.

Hit on everything hot with a pulse. Approach as if you had already went ass to mouth. Assume attraction. Act as such.
 

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guys, I asked a simple and to the point question.
the reply should be one word. 20% or 10% or 5%
I didn't ask to be ridiculed
I didn't ask if YOU personally get nervous or not
and chances are if you have to boast on a forum about how awesome you are, you are one of those fat guys who sit at the coffee shop and play games all day.
The way you framed it waa softer then baby ****. You announced you envy another man. That's homo. Then you asked for random stats instead of something actionable. Advice on how to execute. You basically want a stat to justify your pathetic existence and Internet porn collection.

The value could have been offered by admitted to crying and using your tears a lubricant.
 

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If it's one girl no matter how hot I don't get nervous...groups make me more nervous or just lots of bystanders eavesdropping but after the first two or three approaches I genuinely dgaf and can approach any group...

My and my brother used to play a good game while out and about....we called it the pointing game....the rule is simple I point to a girl he has to go approach with zero time to hesitate then he does for me... The loser is the first person who hesitates until it's too late and the girl is gone......try it with your friend sometime....it really does put u into an approach machine mindset for the day zero attachments to outcome. Doesn't matter if it's a 10 walking with a group of girks or a 2 all by herself....we usually only target the very hottest though of course...I like to throw in a fatty or but ugly chick every once in a while for laughs though...is extra funny of he gets rejected by the fatty llllol

Do this all day long and you both will rack up numbers trust me...50 plus approaches each is a good number.
 

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I have a friend who doesn't get nervous at all when going up to a random girl and talking to her. it doesn't move him at all. his heartbeat doesn't change. he can go talk to a 10. no problem.
I am jealous of him and he is kind of my hero. But I am just wondering how unique this guy is? is it a big deal? should he be my hero?
what percentage of men in USA don't get nervous?
I don't want to influence the answer but most of the men that I know pretend like they don't get nervous, but when it comes down to it, they make up an excuse "she is not my type" "it wasn't the right situation"
He has experience but to trust what he says is another topic.
Famous performers have often said that if they didnt feel the adrenaline they wouldnt be doing it.
 

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Men with no social anxiety and a realistic view of women. Men who fit into that category are pretty rare to come by.

Most guys have social anxiety nowadays, and many are blue pilled. It's hard to be confident with women if you have either one of those things.
 

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If I'm out working all day, talking to everyone... Talking to the hottest chicks is no problem since I'm already warmed up, and have no scoring agenda.

Sometimes, I'm amazed on how things go.
 

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the rule is always if something is new or out of normal you will get altered, so what you do? you keep doing said thing till you can work

I give, I can skydive, do rafting any of this things, and I don't feel a thing, but when I tend to care too much for a woman I can feel a little uneasy, but I still move on, when I don't care much works the better.

so just keep working on it, the more you do the more you will start to feel numb.

but getting something is not really that bad, as long you don't just freeze
 

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I have a friend who doesn't get nervous at all when going up to a random girl and talking to her. it doesn't move him at all. his heartbeat doesn't change. he can go talk to a 10. no problem.
I am jealous of him and he is kind of my hero. But I am just wondering how unique this guy is? is it a big deal? should he be my hero?
what percentage of men in USA don't get nervous?
I don't want to influence the answer but most of the men that I know pretend like they don't get nervous, but when it comes down to it, they make up an excuse "she is not my type" "it wasn't the right situation"
Doesn't matter how common or rare it is. It only matter if YOU get nervous. If you get nervous talking to pretty girls, the trick to becoming completely confident talking to pretty girls is to talk to L O T S of pretty girls....not just ONE, until you become comfortable with *her*, but lots and lots of different girls.
 

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I have never had an anxiety problem when it comes to women, but I know it's real. I used to see it in my friends when we would go out to meet women. I was raised by my grandfather he would approach any woman he was attracted to like it was nothing, and I suppose I just learned from him without really knowing it. He used to say, "Well now, look at her... let's see if she likes me." The off he would go.... He got shot down a lot... A LOT. But it never phased him at all, his attitude was that she just didn't like him, and all it cost him was 5 minutes to find out.

I believe the key is not to get ahead of yourself. All negative emotion has at it's foundation expectation. Too many guys head out with the INTENT to get laid or find a girlfriend. They see a chick they like and immediately start getting ahead of themselves, and they don't want to be disappointed when things don't go as hoped.

My advice is to just go up to people, start conversations, and see what happens. If things go well and a woman happens to like you, then you have something to work with, its a win-win, she either likes you or she doesn't and you found out and can clear your mind of her.... Schrodinger's Cat comes to mind... the only way to find out is to open the box. The best advice I can give any man when dating is to believe that no one woman is batter than any other, and until you actually agrees to spend time with you alone, she is nothing.
 

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I agree that men in Western countries tend to have more fear of approaching women than men in more male-dominated countries. I think that part of this fear is the fear of being judged by society - considered a creep, a pervert or whatever negative label men fear having applied to them. Whereas there are countries where men feel no shame in approaching women and expressing their interest and if they get shot down they just laugh and continue approaching women. It makes me think that approach anxiety could be not so much a fear of the girl's reaction, but a fear of how society will judge you and obviously hat would be different depending what society you're from.
 

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I have a friend who doesn't get nervous at all when going up to a random girl and talking to her. it doesn't move him at all. his heartbeat doesn't change. he can go talk to a 10. no problem.
I am jealous of him and he is kind of my hero. But I am just wondering how unique this guy is? is it a big deal? should he be my hero?
what percentage of men in USA don't get nervous?
I don't want to influence the answer but most of the men that I know pretend like they don't get nervous, but when it comes down to it, they make up an excuse "she is not my type" "it wasn't the right situation"
If you're asking what percentage of men experience zero neurotism, you're talking about the sociopath/psychopath spectrum. In fact, there's evidence that being completely fearless can lead to a short life, or at least, a short life outside a cage.

Most people experience a little nervousness, the first time or two they do something new, especially if that thing can lead to public embarrassment; that's why public speaking is the greatest fear of the most people. I'd say that delivering a speech you wrote, from a podium, in front of thousands of strangers, should produce more nervousness than saying "hello" to one stranger. If you experience crippling nervousness talking to strangers with vaginas, you need to do it a lot more often.

Someone who still experiences nervousness doing something he does routinely is either a neurotic or is doing something he probably shouldn't be doing...like bank robbing or lion taming.
 

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If you're asking what percentage of men experience zero neurotism, you're talking about the sociopath/psychopath spectrum. In fact, there's evidence that being completely fearless can lead to a short life, or at least, a short life outside a cage.

Most people experience a little nervousness, the first time or two they do something new, especially if that thing can lead to public embarrassment; that's why public speaking is the greatest fear of the most people. I'd say that delivering a speech you wrote, from a podium, in front of thousands of strangers, should produce more nervousness than saying "hello" to one stranger. If you experience crippling nervousness talking to strangers with vaginas, you need to do it a lot more often.

Someone who still experiences nervousness doing something he does routinely is either a neurotic or is doing something he probably shouldn't be doing...like bank robbing or lion taming.
It's a good point you made about public speaking. I am indeed one of the people that always got nervous speaking in front of crowds.
Given, however, that my job demands it, and actually in front of very high-pressure audiences, I have gotten partly desensitized to it.
Ever since this happened, I noticed I also find it much easier to talk to a stranger, since the amount of adrenaline rush is much lower in that case. Win-win.
 
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