Backtothedojo
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Hi Everyone. What openers are working for everyone these days? I'm heading out tomorrow night and I really want to get my hands dirty. Any suggestions?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What Openers Are Working For Everyone These Days?
- Thread starter Backtothedojo
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
" Wanna fck"
11 out of 10 times works
11 out of 10 times works
dustmuffin
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hey BB suck my c ock works for me
JohnChops
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Hi.
logicallefty
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"Hey what's shakin. "
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
raider87
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No joke I used that on facebook years ago. She reported me and they deleted my facebook lmao
I wanted to try it because I went through my exs phone and some dude used that as his opening text msg and she ended up sleeping with him. Couldn't believe it.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
Lmao, that's what they call bad luck.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Same open I always use, comment and joke about something around us, if I get positive IOI, I ask "What's your name?', if she gives me her name and responds with IOI, then I just keep going, playing it by ear. Before departing I ask for her number. If she gives it up and gives HIGH IOI then I'll just ask her out right there. If she just gives me her number I'll call when I feel like it and ask her out.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
HoneyHitter
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Guys, good body language (eye contact!) paired with any situational opener will do the job. Stop thinking so hard.