"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
what movie to see?
- Thread starter gdi
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Her: Lets get, "How To Lose a Man in 10 Days (or something equally stupid)"
You: (give her a skeptical look and say) "I'm not a fan for that, but if you want it by all means, just don't expect to SEE the whole movie"
Too much fun, I love it
--Mission
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
Seriously guys, this isn't a big issue nor a debatable topic. Whether she comes over to your place or you go over to her place, most likely you two won't be watching the movie. My first movie with my girl was some crappy old movie like "Stay Alive" at the theaters. Horrible choice, but I gave her an option between comedy and horror, and horror it was...which only left Stay Alive as an option. I couldn't care less to tell you the truth. We barely watched the movie because we had our own thing going on
As long as the movie isn't something as weird as Star Trek, you'll be fine, because you two will be making out anyway (assuming you two are close).