She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Cause 80% of the communication is blocked when you hide behind a keyboard and screen...tryst type said:
Well if your writing skills are great then you can make the woman fantasize about you... Yeh its been done but most times it does not workout as hopedtryst type said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
exactlydopexile said:
Learn not to depend on the other person's reactions such as vocal tone or body language to decide on how to re-act. The problem that most guys have face to face is having that type of defensive interaction with women. Ever wonder why some guys can't seem to escalate? It's because they're waiting on her to make a forward progression either verbally or via body language so that they can follow it; totally defensive and reactionary.tryst type said:
very true info there..Francisco d'Anconia said:Learn not to depend on the other person's reactions such as vocal tone or body language to decide on how to re-act. The problem that most guys have face to face is having that type of defensive interaction with women. Ever wonder why some guys can't seem to escalate? It's because they're waiting on her to make a forward progression either verbally or via body language so that they can follow it; totally defensive and reactionary.
Learn to drive the conversation offensively and have her follow your lead, she will do it readily if she's interested. Since you are in the drivers seat it's easier to lead whether or not you are in person or face to face. You can take things in any direction you'd prefer and it would be up to her to follow you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
damn it LOL... I fixed it...tick37 said:
Key points:Francisco d'Anconia said:Learn not to depend on the other person's reactions such as vocal tone or body language to decide on how to re-act. The problem that most guys have face to face is having that type of defensive interaction with women. Ever wonder why some guys can't seem to escalate? It's because they're waiting on her to make a forward progression either verbally or via body language so that they can follow it; totally defensive and reactionary.
Learn to drive the conversation offensively and have her follow your lead, she will do it readily if she's interested. Since you are in the drivers seat it's easier to lead whether or not you are in person or face to face. You can take things in any direction you'd prefer and it would be up to her to follow you.
so you re unhappy with the fact that you can "easily" win a girl over in real life? would you rather have it the other way around?tryst type said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What don't you understand?tryst type said:
so conversate with her in a way to piss her off online?
You had better stick with face to face interactions.tryst type said:
haha so that's the elaboration?
No, what was posted earlier went into enough detail where it would be understood. If it wasn't and there's no specific questions about its premise, it just may not be the right type of medium for 'ya.tryst type said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.