You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Cause 80% of the communication is blocked when you hide behind a keyboard and screen...tryst type said:
Well if your writing skills are great then you can make the woman fantasize about you... Yeh its been done but most times it does not workout as hopedtryst type said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
exactlydopexile said:
Learn not to depend on the other person's reactions such as vocal tone or body language to decide on how to re-act. The problem that most guys have face to face is having that type of defensive interaction with women. Ever wonder why some guys can't seem to escalate? It's because they're waiting on her to make a forward progression either verbally or via body language so that they can follow it; totally defensive and reactionary.tryst type said:
very true info there..Francisco d'Anconia said:Learn not to depend on the other person's reactions such as vocal tone or body language to decide on how to re-act. The problem that most guys have face to face is having that type of defensive interaction with women. Ever wonder why some guys can't seem to escalate? It's because they're waiting on her to make a forward progression either verbally or via body language so that they can follow it; totally defensive and reactionary.
Learn to drive the conversation offensively and have her follow your lead, she will do it readily if she's interested. Since you are in the drivers seat it's easier to lead whether or not you are in person or face to face. You can take things in any direction you'd prefer and it would be up to her to follow you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
damn it LOL... I fixed it...tick37 said:
Key points:Francisco d'Anconia said:Learn not to depend on the other person's reactions such as vocal tone or body language to decide on how to re-act. The problem that most guys have face to face is having that type of defensive interaction with women. Ever wonder why some guys can't seem to escalate? It's because they're waiting on her to make a forward progression either verbally or via body language so that they can follow it; totally defensive and reactionary.
Learn to drive the conversation offensively and have her follow your lead, she will do it readily if she's interested. Since you are in the drivers seat it's easier to lead whether or not you are in person or face to face. You can take things in any direction you'd prefer and it would be up to her to follow you.
so you re unhappy with the fact that you can "easily" win a girl over in real life? would you rather have it the other way around?tryst type said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What don't you understand?tryst type said:
so conversate with her in a way to piss her off online?
You had better stick with face to face interactions.tryst type said:
haha so that's the elaboration?
No, what was posted earlier went into enough detail where it would be understood. If it wasn't and there's no specific questions about its premise, it just may not be the right type of medium for 'ya.tryst type said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.