"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Work on your flow. Not thinking. When you go anywhere even the store use your senses more and less mind. Overtime you will become more calm and spontaneous. Its going to take time. Once you find your personal groove you will know what it feels like. People will respond better to you. Forget about women and what they look like. For this purpose anyhow.
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Not quite sure what you mean by then? Less thinking more spontaneous action? Using this advice trying to get woman how does it work
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So your saying spin slates and if you get rejected by another woman your body language and overall character will truly show you dont give a fvck because you have another woman in line.
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Yes.

If you have a million dollars in the bank and lost a $100 bill, are you going to blow up and throw a fit and act desperate over it? Probably not. Fvck it....you have a million dollars. Who cares?

However if that $100 bill was all the money you had and lost it, you would surely mope around and be desperate in finding it. You NEEDED it which is where the neediness comes from. Its very valuable because its all you had.

Same goes with women. If you have 2, 3 or 4 options that you are actively seeing, and one starts acting disrespectful, you just use silence and distance and shift your attention to the other options. Or if its major disrespect, just tell her to fvck off and walk away.

Only having one option makes it very hard to just walk away. That is why a rotation is great. Even if its just to date several women and see if one of them becomes a prime LTR candidate.
 
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Yes.

If you have a million dollars in the bank and lost a $100 bill, are you going to blow up and throw a fit and act desperate over it? Probably not. Fvck it....you have a million dollars. Who cares?

However if that $100 bill was all the money you had and lost it, you would surely mope around and be desperate in finding it. You NEEDED it which is where the neediness comes from. Its very valuable because its all you had.

Same goes with women. If you have 2, 3 or 4 options that you are actively seeing, and one starts acting disrespectful, you just use silence and distance and shift your attention to the other options. Or if its major disrespect, just tell her to fvck off and walk away.

Only having one option makes it very hard to just walk away. That is why a rotation is great. Even if its just to date several women and see if one of them becomes a prime LTR candidate.
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Now all i need to do is start finding plates to spin. Thing is I catch feelings quick unfortunatly
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Trying not to
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I'm going to call BS on this.

We all give a fvck to some extent if a hot girl calls us back or not... our brains naturally release dopamine when we get the exciting message from some hot woman we thought we never had a chance with. This by the very nature of it makes us addicted to these types of interactions. So i think when someone says they don't give a fvk they're either psychopaths or they're lying. I think it is more accurate to say... don't invest too much in whether or not that 1 woman writes to you... continue working on yourself and continue putting yourself out there...when a woman takes the bait... just try not to care more than she does. I like the analogy of the guy with 1 million dollars in the bank. Just figure each woman is worth $100.... if you lose $100 it's not that big of a deal. Don't invest more until they do. And remember NEVER go off of their words... only their ACTIONS.
 
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Don't think working out extremely hard will make much difference if you dont know how PickUp really works. You would need to study it and practice it and that way will get your more women than working out.
 
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well me being pretty lean i definitly notice attraction from hotter chicks. My other problem is I get to drunk. Not sloppy drunk nut drunk enough to not be 100%
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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