"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What kind of weight gain should i be experiencing?

MikeYikes122

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I've been following EFFORT's newbie weight lifting regimen for about a week and a half now. On a daily basis I will usually eat some whole wheat bran cereal for breakfast. For lunch, a turkey sandwich with four or five strips of bacon. Usually a can or two of tuna finds its way in there as well. For dinner, I eat either a .8 ounce chicken breast or a big piece of talapia (fish). To go along with that final meal, I'll have a large serving of whole wheat rice and sometimes a salad with a lot of veggies if I can stomach it in.

As for protein shakes, I eat usually seven or eight raw eggs a day and consume two protein shakes. If it's a workout day, I will put two or three servings of peanut butter in my post-workout shake. I would put peanut butter in all my shakes, but the smell of it makes me gag for some reason (bad childhood memories). All the shakes are mixed with skim milk. As for supplements, I take about two grams each of flax oil and fish oil every day.

I haven't cheated really at all anywhere either.

I've gone from 147 pounds to 153 pounds in the week and a half I've been doing this. Am I gaining too much or too little?

Also feel free to critique my diet. I am a newbie and open to any suggestions.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Forgot to mention, I haven't done a whole lot of cardio - just a very light jog one morning and some shooting around on the basketball court. I have a very good metabolism, and I'm scared to work in a lot of cardio.

I also eat low-fat cottage cheese in between meals.
 

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Aim to gain about 1 lb per week, initially you might get a big increase due to water weight being held by the greater amount of carbs you're consuming. Btw your diet doesn't seem too great. Protein in every meal, 6 meals a day, carbs tapered in morning and around training, with fats used generally at more sedentary periods. Eggs, beef, chicken, tuna, pasta, rice, wholemeal bread, fruit, veg, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish oils etc.

MM
 

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So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
 

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Search for EFFORT's thread on diet in the sticky.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MikeYikes122 said:
So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
Good food choices, just kinda disorganised and misarranged.

MM
 

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MikeYikes122 said:
So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
you've been fed misinformation since the crib -- it's ok, we were all there once.
 

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Being a new entrant in the regimen of weight gain I feel one should take proper guidance about the diet and exercising routine from an expert. Else the suggestions of people are so confusing it can easily make things complicated for one. I am myself confused about the diet in which you are going right now! I feel its too hard to comment as a novice.
 

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Mad Manic said:
Aim to gain about 1 lb per week, initially you might get a big increase due to water weight being held by the greater amount of carbs you're consuming. Btw your diet doesn't seem too great. Protein in every meal, 6 meals a day, carbs tapered in morning and around training, with fats used generally at more sedentary periods. Eggs, beef, chicken, tuna, pasta, rice, wholemeal bread, fruit, veg, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish oils etc.

MM
My god, we agree on something.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's okay man, I've spent the better part of a year learning what to eat, why to eat it, when, and how much.

It takes time, patience, and effort just like any other skill(eating well).
 
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