"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What kind of weight gain should i be experiencing?

MikeYikes122

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I've been following EFFORT's newbie weight lifting regimen for about a week and a half now. On a daily basis I will usually eat some whole wheat bran cereal for breakfast. For lunch, a turkey sandwich with four or five strips of bacon. Usually a can or two of tuna finds its way in there as well. For dinner, I eat either a .8 ounce chicken breast or a big piece of talapia (fish). To go along with that final meal, I'll have a large serving of whole wheat rice and sometimes a salad with a lot of veggies if I can stomach it in.

As for protein shakes, I eat usually seven or eight raw eggs a day and consume two protein shakes. If it's a workout day, I will put two or three servings of peanut butter in my post-workout shake. I would put peanut butter in all my shakes, but the smell of it makes me gag for some reason (bad childhood memories). All the shakes are mixed with skim milk. As for supplements, I take about two grams each of flax oil and fish oil every day.

I haven't cheated really at all anywhere either.

I've gone from 147 pounds to 153 pounds in the week and a half I've been doing this. Am I gaining too much or too little?

Also feel free to critique my diet. I am a newbie and open to any suggestions.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Forgot to mention, I haven't done a whole lot of cardio - just a very light jog one morning and some shooting around on the basketball court. I have a very good metabolism, and I'm scared to work in a lot of cardio.

I also eat low-fat cottage cheese in between meals.
 

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Aim to gain about 1 lb per week, initially you might get a big increase due to water weight being held by the greater amount of carbs you're consuming. Btw your diet doesn't seem too great. Protein in every meal, 6 meals a day, carbs tapered in morning and around training, with fats used generally at more sedentary periods. Eggs, beef, chicken, tuna, pasta, rice, wholemeal bread, fruit, veg, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish oils etc.

MM
 

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So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
 

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Search for EFFORT's thread on diet in the sticky.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MikeYikes122 said:
So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
Good food choices, just kinda disorganised and misarranged.

MM
 

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MikeYikes122 said:
So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
you've been fed misinformation since the crib -- it's ok, we were all there once.
 

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Being a new entrant in the regimen of weight gain I feel one should take proper guidance about the diet and exercising routine from an expert. Else the suggestions of people are so confusing it can easily make things complicated for one. I am myself confused about the diet in which you are going right now! I feel its too hard to comment as a novice.
 

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Mad Manic said:
Aim to gain about 1 lb per week, initially you might get a big increase due to water weight being held by the greater amount of carbs you're consuming. Btw your diet doesn't seem too great. Protein in every meal, 6 meals a day, carbs tapered in morning and around training, with fats used generally at more sedentary periods. Eggs, beef, chicken, tuna, pasta, rice, wholemeal bread, fruit, veg, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish oils etc.

MM
My god, we agree on something.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's okay man, I've spent the better part of a year learning what to eat, why to eat it, when, and how much.

It takes time, patience, and effort just like any other skill(eating well).
 
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