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What kind of weight gain should i be experiencing?

MikeYikes122

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I've been following EFFORT's newbie weight lifting regimen for about a week and a half now. On a daily basis I will usually eat some whole wheat bran cereal for breakfast. For lunch, a turkey sandwich with four or five strips of bacon. Usually a can or two of tuna finds its way in there as well. For dinner, I eat either a .8 ounce chicken breast or a big piece of talapia (fish). To go along with that final meal, I'll have a large serving of whole wheat rice and sometimes a salad with a lot of veggies if I can stomach it in.

As for protein shakes, I eat usually seven or eight raw eggs a day and consume two protein shakes. If it's a workout day, I will put two or three servings of peanut butter in my post-workout shake. I would put peanut butter in all my shakes, but the smell of it makes me gag for some reason (bad childhood memories). All the shakes are mixed with skim milk. As for supplements, I take about two grams each of flax oil and fish oil every day.

I haven't cheated really at all anywhere either.

I've gone from 147 pounds to 153 pounds in the week and a half I've been doing this. Am I gaining too much or too little?

Also feel free to critique my diet. I am a newbie and open to any suggestions.
 

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Forgot to mention, I haven't done a whole lot of cardio - just a very light jog one morning and some shooting around on the basketball court. I have a very good metabolism, and I'm scared to work in a lot of cardio.

I also eat low-fat cottage cheese in between meals.
 

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Aim to gain about 1 lb per week, initially you might get a big increase due to water weight being held by the greater amount of carbs you're consuming. Btw your diet doesn't seem too great. Protein in every meal, 6 meals a day, carbs tapered in morning and around training, with fats used generally at more sedentary periods. Eggs, beef, chicken, tuna, pasta, rice, wholemeal bread, fruit, veg, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish oils etc.

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So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
 

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Search for EFFORT's thread on diet in the sticky.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MikeYikes122 said:
So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
Good food choices, just kinda disorganised and misarranged.

MM
 

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MikeYikes122 said:
So my diet isn't good?

Man this is frustrating. I feel like I can't do anything right.
you've been fed misinformation since the crib -- it's ok, we were all there once.
 

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Being a new entrant in the regimen of weight gain I feel one should take proper guidance about the diet and exercising routine from an expert. Else the suggestions of people are so confusing it can easily make things complicated for one. I am myself confused about the diet in which you are going right now! I feel its too hard to comment as a novice.
 

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Mad Manic said:
Aim to gain about 1 lb per week, initially you might get a big increase due to water weight being held by the greater amount of carbs you're consuming. Btw your diet doesn't seem too great. Protein in every meal, 6 meals a day, carbs tapered in morning and around training, with fats used generally at more sedentary periods. Eggs, beef, chicken, tuna, pasta, rice, wholemeal bread, fruit, veg, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish oils etc.

MM
My god, we agree on something.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's okay man, I've spent the better part of a year learning what to eat, why to eat it, when, and how much.

It takes time, patience, and effort just like any other skill(eating well).
 
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