DJ Girevik
Senior Don Juan
225 BW, my best bench is 190 lbs. Crappy, but I almost never work on benching.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Bullsheet!Originally posted by drixsa
barbell squat 395lbs
deadlift 250lbs
yes but i do high reps for deadlift b/c i am tryin to strengthin my lower back b/c it is proportionally weakerOriginally posted by wheelin&dealin
Bullsheet!
If your squat if legit, you should be able to deadlift alot more than 250 lbs.
Not that it matters but i'm sure you couldn't. Not yet anyway.Originally posted by drixsa
yes but i do high reps for deadlift b/c i am tryin to strengthin my lower back b/c it is proportionally weaker
if i wanted to max it i am sure i could do double the weight
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yea i could but then my lower back would be in a lot of pain to squeeze out 1 rep...not that it mattersOriginally posted by Templeton
Not that it matters but i'm sure you couldn't. Not yet anyway.
you said it brotha.Originally posted by Amorican23
my bench really isn't all that impressive, i have trained with several guys around my size who put me to shame. i'm 5'8", 165, and have been powerlifting for about 5 years. i also squat in the mid 400's and clean in the mid 200's (haven't maxed recently so not sure exactly where i am right now). if you want your lifts to go up quit doing curls and flyes and other pointless movements that do nothing but waste your time, forget the garbage you read in muscle and fiction, and train ****ing hard. read a lot and check out some of the Westside Barbell methods, because they work.
Amen to that! Curls aren't even the best bicep workout - I find chins and pullups to be much better, especially chins.Originally posted by Amorican23
my bench really isn't all that impressive, i have trained with several guys around my size who put me to shame. i'm 5'8", 165, and have been powerlifting for about 5 years. i also squat in the mid 400's and clean in the mid 200's (haven't maxed recently so not sure exactly where i am right now). if you want your lifts to go up quit doing curls and flyes and other pointless movements that do nothing but waste your time, forget the garbage you read in muscle and fiction, and train ****ing hard. read a lot and check out some of the Westside Barbell methods, because they work.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.