DJ Girevik
Senior Don Juan
225 BW, my best bench is 190 lbs. Crappy, but I almost never work on benching.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bullsheet!Originally posted by drixsa
barbell squat 395lbs
deadlift 250lbs
yes but i do high reps for deadlift b/c i am tryin to strengthin my lower back b/c it is proportionally weakerOriginally posted by wheelin&dealin
Bullsheet!
If your squat if legit, you should be able to deadlift alot more than 250 lbs.
Not that it matters but i'm sure you couldn't. Not yet anyway.Originally posted by drixsa
yes but i do high reps for deadlift b/c i am tryin to strengthin my lower back b/c it is proportionally weaker
if i wanted to max it i am sure i could do double the weight
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
yea i could but then my lower back would be in a lot of pain to squeeze out 1 rep...not that it mattersOriginally posted by Templeton
Not that it matters but i'm sure you couldn't. Not yet anyway.
you said it brotha.Originally posted by Amorican23
my bench really isn't all that impressive, i have trained with several guys around my size who put me to shame. i'm 5'8", 165, and have been powerlifting for about 5 years. i also squat in the mid 400's and clean in the mid 200's (haven't maxed recently so not sure exactly where i am right now). if you want your lifts to go up quit doing curls and flyes and other pointless movements that do nothing but waste your time, forget the garbage you read in muscle and fiction, and train ****ing hard. read a lot and check out some of the Westside Barbell methods, because they work.
Amen to that! Curls aren't even the best bicep workout - I find chins and pullups to be much better, especially chins.Originally posted by Amorican23
my bench really isn't all that impressive, i have trained with several guys around my size who put me to shame. i'm 5'8", 165, and have been powerlifting for about 5 years. i also squat in the mid 400's and clean in the mid 200's (haven't maxed recently so not sure exactly where i am right now). if you want your lifts to go up quit doing curls and flyes and other pointless movements that do nothing but waste your time, forget the garbage you read in muscle and fiction, and train ****ing hard. read a lot and check out some of the Westside Barbell methods, because they work.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.