DJ Girevik
Senior Don Juan
225 BW, my best bench is 190 lbs. Crappy, but I almost never work on benching.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bullsheet!Originally posted by drixsa
barbell squat 395lbs
deadlift 250lbs
yes but i do high reps for deadlift b/c i am tryin to strengthin my lower back b/c it is proportionally weakerOriginally posted by wheelin&dealin
Bullsheet!
If your squat if legit, you should be able to deadlift alot more than 250 lbs.
Not that it matters but i'm sure you couldn't. Not yet anyway.Originally posted by drixsa
yes but i do high reps for deadlift b/c i am tryin to strengthin my lower back b/c it is proportionally weaker
if i wanted to max it i am sure i could do double the weight
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
yea i could but then my lower back would be in a lot of pain to squeeze out 1 rep...not that it mattersOriginally posted by Templeton
Not that it matters but i'm sure you couldn't. Not yet anyway.
you said it brotha.Originally posted by Amorican23
my bench really isn't all that impressive, i have trained with several guys around my size who put me to shame. i'm 5'8", 165, and have been powerlifting for about 5 years. i also squat in the mid 400's and clean in the mid 200's (haven't maxed recently so not sure exactly where i am right now). if you want your lifts to go up quit doing curls and flyes and other pointless movements that do nothing but waste your time, forget the garbage you read in muscle and fiction, and train ****ing hard. read a lot and check out some of the Westside Barbell methods, because they work.
Amen to that! Curls aren't even the best bicep workout - I find chins and pullups to be much better, especially chins.Originally posted by Amorican23
my bench really isn't all that impressive, i have trained with several guys around my size who put me to shame. i'm 5'8", 165, and have been powerlifting for about 5 years. i also squat in the mid 400's and clean in the mid 200's (haven't maxed recently so not sure exactly where i am right now). if you want your lifts to go up quit doing curls and flyes and other pointless movements that do nothing but waste your time, forget the garbage you read in muscle and fiction, and train ****ing hard. read a lot and check out some of the Westside Barbell methods, because they work.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.