"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What is this strange phenomenon? Girl looks completely different during sex.

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Im friends with a girl. Brown hair brown eyes. I see who she is facial features and some personality wise. So I thought.

We start having sex and she is moaning very sweetly. Innocently even. Then I catch a sign of her face and I thought I'd gone crazy - it was a different person. Different face, different look. Even the hair got lighter color to compliment the look. I REALLY liked seeing this girl - and it clicked to me what kind of girl she could be, but I couldn't exactly say "hey, uhh, who are you? what do you like?" I kind of mentioned to her she looks a bit different and she said "Probably because I'm relaxed".

We went to bed and I was up half the night wondering about this. Was she in another world where she was 18 having sex? Was she bipolar?

Next morning I've kind of realized its probably a spectrum - where this innocent girl is the girl during sex, then other side is the girl Im friends with, cause usually we talk about serious things so she looks more serious. And then I kind of caught the transition phase which happens after she opens her eyes as a young girl and starts coming back to her typical look- eyes change, face changes a bit.



Anyway this was trippy and I'm wondering if anyone had this experience or can explain this. Ive never seen a change this drastic.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Blood rushing through her body, plus her hormones and your hormones.
 

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Blood rushing through her body, plus her hormones and your hormones.
yeah well my next thought was "do i need to **** her 20 hours a day to get this girl to stay around?" It was so awesome. Makes it a bit awkward looking at the friend version.
 

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I am going to bite on this... haha. OP, I have seen this also.

The facial expressions and persona change. The thing is you have never seen that expression and persona before I assume from her. It is always with her.

Not sure about all the other things around this post, but no need anyway. Don't LTR her if unless you see the same face at other times when you not fcking. This is a real thing, I won't drag through the boring details.
 

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I am going to bite on this... haha. OP, I have seen this also.

The facial expressions and persona change. The thing is you have never seen that expression and persona before I assume from her. It is always with her.

Not sure about all the other things around this post, but no need anyway. Don't LTR her if unless you see the same face at other times when you not fcking. This is a real thing, I won't drag through the boring details.
noted.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Go check your eyes, OP. Seems to me the one's having problems (if there was any) is you, not her.
 

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Im friends with a girl. Brown hair brown eyes. I see who she is facial features and some personality wise. So I thought.

We start having sex and she is moaning very sweetly. Innocently even. Then I catch a sign of her face and I thought I'd gone crazy - it was a different person. Different face, different look. Even the hair got lighter color to compliment the look. I REALLY liked seeing this girl - and it clicked to me what kind of girl she could be, but I couldn't exactly say "hey, uhh, who are you? what do you like?" I kind of mentioned to her she looks a bit different and she said "Probably because I'm relaxed".

We went to bed and I was up half the night wondering about this. Was she in another world where she was 18 having sex? Was she bipolar?

Next morning I've kind of realized its probably a spectrum - where this innocent girl is the girl during sex, then other side is the girl Im friends with, cause usually we talk about serious things so she looks more serious. And then I kind of caught the transition phase which happens after she opens her eyes as a young girl and starts coming back to her typical look- eyes change, face changes a bit.



Anyway this was trippy and I'm wondering if anyone had this experience or can explain this. Ive never seen a change this drastic.
Are you sure she doesnt turn into a demon during sex?
 

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Im friends with a girl. Brown hair brown eyes. I see who she is facial features and some personality wise. So I thought.

We start having sex and she is moaning very sweetly. Innocently even. Then I catch a sign of her face and I thought I'd gone crazy - it was a different person. Different face, different look. Even the hair got lighter color to compliment the look. I REALLY liked seeing this girl - and it clicked to me what kind of girl she could be, but I couldn't exactly say "hey, uhh, who are you? what do you like?" I kind of mentioned to her she looks a bit different and she said "Probably because I'm relaxed".

We went to bed and I was up half the night wondering about this. Was she in another world where she was 18 having sex? Was she bipolar?

Next morning I've kind of realized its probably a spectrum - where this innocent girl is the girl during sex, then other side is the girl Im friends with, cause usually we talk about serious things so she looks more serious. And then I kind of caught the transition phase which happens after she opens her eyes as a young girl and starts coming back to her typical look- eyes change, face changes a bit.



Anyway this was trippy and I'm wondering if anyone had this experience or can explain this. Ive never seen a change this drastic.
I'm kind of tall so generally most girls faces are too low to see whilst I'm on top of them. Maybe that's why I've never seen this. But if her eyes turn red I think it means that she's a cyborg.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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