"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What is this strange phenomenon? Girl looks completely different during sex.

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Im friends with a girl. Brown hair brown eyes. I see who she is facial features and some personality wise. So I thought.

We start having sex and she is moaning very sweetly. Innocently even. Then I catch a sign of her face and I thought I'd gone crazy - it was a different person. Different face, different look. Even the hair got lighter color to compliment the look. I REALLY liked seeing this girl - and it clicked to me what kind of girl she could be, but I couldn't exactly say "hey, uhh, who are you? what do you like?" I kind of mentioned to her she looks a bit different and she said "Probably because I'm relaxed".

We went to bed and I was up half the night wondering about this. Was she in another world where she was 18 having sex? Was she bipolar?

Next morning I've kind of realized its probably a spectrum - where this innocent girl is the girl during sex, then other side is the girl Im friends with, cause usually we talk about serious things so she looks more serious. And then I kind of caught the transition phase which happens after she opens her eyes as a young girl and starts coming back to her typical look- eyes change, face changes a bit.



Anyway this was trippy and I'm wondering if anyone had this experience or can explain this. Ive never seen a change this drastic.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Blood rushing through her body, plus her hormones and your hormones.
 

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Blood rushing through her body, plus her hormones and your hormones.
yeah well my next thought was "do i need to **** her 20 hours a day to get this girl to stay around?" It was so awesome. Makes it a bit awkward looking at the friend version.
 

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I am going to bite on this... haha. OP, I have seen this also.

The facial expressions and persona change. The thing is you have never seen that expression and persona before I assume from her. It is always with her.

Not sure about all the other things around this post, but no need anyway. Don't LTR her if unless you see the same face at other times when you not fcking. This is a real thing, I won't drag through the boring details.
 

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I am going to bite on this... haha. OP, I have seen this also.

The facial expressions and persona change. The thing is you have never seen that expression and persona before I assume from her. It is always with her.

Not sure about all the other things around this post, but no need anyway. Don't LTR her if unless you see the same face at other times when you not fcking. This is a real thing, I won't drag through the boring details.
noted.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Go check your eyes, OP. Seems to me the one's having problems (if there was any) is you, not her.
 

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Im friends with a girl. Brown hair brown eyes. I see who she is facial features and some personality wise. So I thought.

We start having sex and she is moaning very sweetly. Innocently even. Then I catch a sign of her face and I thought I'd gone crazy - it was a different person. Different face, different look. Even the hair got lighter color to compliment the look. I REALLY liked seeing this girl - and it clicked to me what kind of girl she could be, but I couldn't exactly say "hey, uhh, who are you? what do you like?" I kind of mentioned to her she looks a bit different and she said "Probably because I'm relaxed".

We went to bed and I was up half the night wondering about this. Was she in another world where she was 18 having sex? Was she bipolar?

Next morning I've kind of realized its probably a spectrum - where this innocent girl is the girl during sex, then other side is the girl Im friends with, cause usually we talk about serious things so she looks more serious. And then I kind of caught the transition phase which happens after she opens her eyes as a young girl and starts coming back to her typical look- eyes change, face changes a bit.



Anyway this was trippy and I'm wondering if anyone had this experience or can explain this. Ive never seen a change this drastic.
Are you sure she doesnt turn into a demon during sex?
 

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Im friends with a girl. Brown hair brown eyes. I see who she is facial features and some personality wise. So I thought.

We start having sex and she is moaning very sweetly. Innocently even. Then I catch a sign of her face and I thought I'd gone crazy - it was a different person. Different face, different look. Even the hair got lighter color to compliment the look. I REALLY liked seeing this girl - and it clicked to me what kind of girl she could be, but I couldn't exactly say "hey, uhh, who are you? what do you like?" I kind of mentioned to her she looks a bit different and she said "Probably because I'm relaxed".

We went to bed and I was up half the night wondering about this. Was she in another world where she was 18 having sex? Was she bipolar?

Next morning I've kind of realized its probably a spectrum - where this innocent girl is the girl during sex, then other side is the girl Im friends with, cause usually we talk about serious things so she looks more serious. And then I kind of caught the transition phase which happens after she opens her eyes as a young girl and starts coming back to her typical look- eyes change, face changes a bit.



Anyway this was trippy and I'm wondering if anyone had this experience or can explain this. Ive never seen a change this drastic.
I'm kind of tall so generally most girls faces are too low to see whilst I'm on top of them. Maybe that's why I've never seen this. But if her eyes turn red I think it means that she's a cyborg.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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