"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is the disorder Bdp?

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I've heard it commonly used by people on the forms but am not sure what it means. Any helps please?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It means Borderline Personality Disorder.

Do a forum search about it and you'll find a ton of threads on it.

A lot of posters here mistakenly think it stands for Bipolar Disorder but it does not as they are two seperate disorders.
 

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BPD is Borderline personality disorder. Its a fairly common but under diagnosed disorder predominately affecting females (usually attractive females). I believe they estimate prevalence around 3 percent of the general population, so obviously higher portions of the attractive female demographic.

These girls can tear your heart out and take you from top of the world to rock bottom in a few minutes, as they have a way of idealizing you that makes you feel great, but then switch to hating you for no apparent reason. In other words, best to avoid them.

Signs and symptoms include very unstable moods and relationships, massive fear of abandonment, sexual promiscuity, black and white thinking, extreme jealousy, and giving their current emotions precedence over facts. They also don't really have a personality of their own and terrible self esteem, often resulting in things like eating disorders and cutting. Often this does not come out until you are in a relationship with them, so friends and family may have absolutely no idea and even not believe you if you tell them.

Google it for more information, there is plenty around.
 

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I agree with Smooth talker. Stay away from these girls!

Not to rant on my own story, but I was engaged to a very attractive girl who had BPD. She would have her strange moods and rants (Broke up with me once for like 5 hrs because I didn't empty the dishwasher like I promised). She raved to her friends how great I was, then one day she had a breakdown, and said how much she loved me and said she needed to get herself fixed. I never really spoke to her again.

Yea, I am much better off without this headache and drama, but I wasted alot of time and energy with that situation.

Moral: STAY AWAY
 

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Yea dude bdp is nothing to mess with unless you have super high confidence and are very c0cky, and actually narcassistic and know what you are capable of hanlding. They will be the most caring person in the world then BOOM they wanna have nothing to do with you for no reason, well probably cause they hate themselves and want to bring you down to their level. I lived with one it was fvcking hell. One day so perfect then the next second shes in tears saying shes sick of your sh1t and to go fvck urself then go off and fvck some random dude to bring their self esteem up. If youre going to get involved be prepared and you better have the mind set you are better than her all the time and never totally let your guard down. You will break up a gizzillion times get back together and then again again again and again. you like drama then go do it. I can handle them somewhat cause i think im better than a lot of people (not necessarily a good thing) and when sh1t hits the fan I can walk away pretty fast but I gotta work on the part of getting sucked back in which happens often.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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brian123

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MattS said:
Yea dude bdp is nothing to mess with unless you have super high confidence and are very c0cky, and actually narcassistic and know what you are capable of hanlding.

I agree with everything else you said, but not that. I wouldn't even get involved with a BPD girl. You get sucked in. No matter how confident/****y you are, it will be a rollercoaster ride that will mess you up. Totally not worth it.

Whenever a girl mentions that she is on meds, or has any other serious issues like that, I run away.
 
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