"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What is the disorder Bdp?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Do a forum search about it and you'll find a ton of threads on it.
A lot of posters here mistakenly think it stands for Bipolar Disorder but it does not as they are two seperate disorders.
SmoothTalker
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These girls can tear your heart out and take you from top of the world to rock bottom in a few minutes, as they have a way of idealizing you that makes you feel great, but then switch to hating you for no apparent reason. In other words, best to avoid them.
Signs and symptoms include very unstable moods and relationships, massive fear of abandonment, sexual promiscuity, black and white thinking, extreme jealousy, and giving their current emotions precedence over facts. They also don't really have a personality of their own and terrible self esteem, often resulting in things like eating disorders and cutting. Often this does not come out until you are in a relationship with them, so friends and family may have absolutely no idea and even not believe you if you tell them.
Google it for more information, there is plenty around.
Not to rant on my own story, but I was engaged to a very attractive girl who had BPD. She would have her strange moods and rants (Broke up with me once for like 5 hrs because I didn't empty the dishwasher like I promised). She raved to her friends how great I was, then one day she had a breakdown, and said how much she loved me and said she needed to get herself fixed. I never really spoke to her again.
Yea, I am much better off without this headache and drama, but I wasted alot of time and energy with that situation.
Moral: STAY AWAY
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MattS said:Yea dude bdp is nothing to mess with unless you have super high confidence and are very c0cky, and actually narcassistic and know what you are capable of hanlding.
I agree with everything else you said, but not that. I wouldn't even get involved with a BPD girl. You get sucked in. No matter how confident/****y you are, it will be a rollercoaster ride that will mess you up. Totally not worth it.
Whenever a girl mentions that she is on meds, or has any other serious issues like that, I run away.