"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What is the disorder Bdp?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Do a forum search about it and you'll find a ton of threads on it.
A lot of posters here mistakenly think it stands for Bipolar Disorder but it does not as they are two seperate disorders.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
These girls can tear your heart out and take you from top of the world to rock bottom in a few minutes, as they have a way of idealizing you that makes you feel great, but then switch to hating you for no apparent reason. In other words, best to avoid them.
Signs and symptoms include very unstable moods and relationships, massive fear of abandonment, sexual promiscuity, black and white thinking, extreme jealousy, and giving their current emotions precedence over facts. They also don't really have a personality of their own and terrible self esteem, often resulting in things like eating disorders and cutting. Often this does not come out until you are in a relationship with them, so friends and family may have absolutely no idea and even not believe you if you tell them.
Google it for more information, there is plenty around.
Not to rant on my own story, but I was engaged to a very attractive girl who had BPD. She would have her strange moods and rants (Broke up with me once for like 5 hrs because I didn't empty the dishwasher like I promised). She raved to her friends how great I was, then one day she had a breakdown, and said how much she loved me and said she needed to get herself fixed. I never really spoke to her again.
Yea, I am much better off without this headache and drama, but I wasted alot of time and energy with that situation.
Moral: STAY AWAY
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MattS said:Yea dude bdp is nothing to mess with unless you have super high confidence and are very c0cky, and actually narcassistic and know what you are capable of hanlding.
I agree with everything else you said, but not that. I wouldn't even get involved with a BPD girl. You get sucked in. No matter how confident/****y you are, it will be a rollercoaster ride that will mess you up. Totally not worth it.
Whenever a girl mentions that she is on meds, or has any other serious issues like that, I run away.