"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What is the disorder Bdp?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Do a forum search about it and you'll find a ton of threads on it.
A lot of posters here mistakenly think it stands for Bipolar Disorder but it does not as they are two seperate disorders.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
These girls can tear your heart out and take you from top of the world to rock bottom in a few minutes, as they have a way of idealizing you that makes you feel great, but then switch to hating you for no apparent reason. In other words, best to avoid them.
Signs and symptoms include very unstable moods and relationships, massive fear of abandonment, sexual promiscuity, black and white thinking, extreme jealousy, and giving their current emotions precedence over facts. They also don't really have a personality of their own and terrible self esteem, often resulting in things like eating disorders and cutting. Often this does not come out until you are in a relationship with them, so friends and family may have absolutely no idea and even not believe you if you tell them.
Google it for more information, there is plenty around.
Not to rant on my own story, but I was engaged to a very attractive girl who had BPD. She would have her strange moods and rants (Broke up with me once for like 5 hrs because I didn't empty the dishwasher like I promised). She raved to her friends how great I was, then one day she had a breakdown, and said how much she loved me and said she needed to get herself fixed. I never really spoke to her again.
Yea, I am much better off without this headache and drama, but I wasted alot of time and energy with that situation.
Moral: STAY AWAY
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
MattS said:Yea dude bdp is nothing to mess with unless you have super high confidence and are very c0cky, and actually narcassistic and know what you are capable of hanlding.
I agree with everything else you said, but not that. I wouldn't even get involved with a BPD girl. You get sucked in. No matter how confident/****y you are, it will be a rollercoaster ride that will mess you up. Totally not worth it.
Whenever a girl mentions that she is on meds, or has any other serious issues like that, I run away.