That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
But it doesn't really fit this situation.Leaving... That does sound like a little bit of an overreaction to her saying she can't stay too long.INXS said:
Confused.blueguy said:Wow, you are really concerned for tonight. Very needy. It'll screw you over. Too many questions. Too many concerns. You just got with this girl. You can't fake it for too long. You gotta reprogram your thinking.
She should be the concerned one.
Tell you what... convince yourself that although you *prefer* a certain outcome, it won't affect you, and the answers to your questions will come naturally. Having sex is always good 'cause that's what guys do, and it doesn't reek of neediness.
Leaving... That does sound like a little bit of an overreaction to her saying she can't stay too long.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tell yourself this: You are the man. You get what do you want. What do you want tonight? Did you just want to go home and walk away because your girl gave you some sh!t test by saying she can't stay too long?! I don't think that's why you made plans tonight, is it? Are you really that affected by what she thinks? Her thinking shouldn't affect you.INXS said:Confused.
Does leaving sound like over-reacting? or leaving and saying that?