Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
But it doesn't really fit this situation.Leaving... That does sound like a little bit of an overreaction to her saying she can't stay too long.INXS said:
Confused.blueguy said:Wow, you are really concerned for tonight. Very needy. It'll screw you over. Too many questions. Too many concerns. You just got with this girl. You can't fake it for too long. You gotta reprogram your thinking.
She should be the concerned one.
Tell you what... convince yourself that although you *prefer* a certain outcome, it won't affect you, and the answers to your questions will come naturally. Having sex is always good 'cause that's what guys do, and it doesn't reek of neediness.
Leaving... That does sound like a little bit of an overreaction to her saying she can't stay too long.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Tell yourself this: You are the man. You get what do you want. What do you want tonight? Did you just want to go home and walk away because your girl gave you some sh!t test by saying she can't stay too long?! I don't think that's why you made plans tonight, is it? Are you really that affected by what she thinks? Her thinking shouldn't affect you.INXS said:Confused.
Does leaving sound like over-reacting? or leaving and saying that?