Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
But it doesn't really fit this situation.Leaving... That does sound like a little bit of an overreaction to her saying she can't stay too long.INXS said:
Confused.blueguy said:Wow, you are really concerned for tonight. Very needy. It'll screw you over. Too many questions. Too many concerns. You just got with this girl. You can't fake it for too long. You gotta reprogram your thinking.
She should be the concerned one.
Tell you what... convince yourself that although you *prefer* a certain outcome, it won't affect you, and the answers to your questions will come naturally. Having sex is always good 'cause that's what guys do, and it doesn't reek of neediness.
Leaving... That does sound like a little bit of an overreaction to her saying she can't stay too long.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tell yourself this: You are the man. You get what do you want. What do you want tonight? Did you just want to go home and walk away because your girl gave you some sh!t test by saying she can't stay too long?! I don't think that's why you made plans tonight, is it? Are you really that affected by what she thinks? Her thinking shouldn't affect you.INXS said:Confused.
Does leaving sound like over-reacting? or leaving and saying that?