"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What if she says "I miss you"?

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What´s the course of action?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If your gut instinct feeling is telling you she is trying to manipulate you don't answer her.

If your gut instinct feeling is telling you she truly misses you go ahead and answer her.
 
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"i know." -Han Solo
 

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"But we just saw each other".
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This is a shame. Damn...you need to know how to wipe your ass too?
 

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I think Francisco has found a way to save lots and lots of time.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I think Francisco has found a way to save lots and lots of time.
You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.
 

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Yeah, I'm starting to realize that words don't count for much. Communication happens under the surface. You and the chick communicate without even speaking.

Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.

Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.
Yeah, words like "I miss you" doesn't mean anything. Don't be fooled.

She told me "I miss you" last week. She must miss me so much, that's why she didn't call me all weekend. NEXT.
 

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Yeah, I'm starting to realize that words don't count for much. Communication happens under the surface. You and the chick communicate without even speaking.

Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.

Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
I got a voice mail from a woman who I haven't seen in almost a month but had left a vm for a couple of weeks ago. She's busy working on a new degree and is preparing to speak at a big conference so she's not readily available. She says that we should plan on seeing each other some time next month. I just deleted the message, she has my number. I may be free next month, I may not. Either way it's not worth worrying about. If something comes of it, great; if not life goes on. They were just words.
 

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I had told her "I know" lol!
 

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how about just, I miss you too? simple... why play these stupid games?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I´m gonna follow doc love "how much?"

lol
 

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I´m gonna follow doc love "how much?"

lol
That'll work too but to a lesser extent. She'll probably tell you something nice.
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
how about just, I miss you too? simple... why play these stupid games?
Good point. It seems like you don't miss her that much.
 
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