Blue Phoenix
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What´s the course of action?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What if she says "I miss you"?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
KontrollerX
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If your gut instinct feeling is telling you she is trying to manipulate you don't answer her.
If your gut instinct feeling is telling you she truly misses you go ahead and answer her.
If your gut instinct feeling is telling you she truly misses you go ahead and answer her.
canadianmetalhead
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"i know." -Han Solo
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
oakraiderz2
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This is a shame. Damn...you need to know how to wipe your ass too?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Prove it..."
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.reset said:I think Francisco has found a way to save lots and lots of time.
Yeah, I'm starting to realize that words don't count for much. Communication happens under the surface. You and the chick communicate without even speaking.
Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.
Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.
Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
My Name is Nobody
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Yeah, words like "I miss you" doesn't mean anything. Don't be fooled.Francisco d'Anconia said:You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.
She told me "I miss you" last week. She must miss me so much, that's why she didn't call me all weekend. NEXT.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I got a voice mail from a woman who I haven't seen in almost a month but had left a vm for a couple of weeks ago. She's busy working on a new degree and is preparing to speak at a big conference so she's not readily available. She says that we should plan on seeing each other some time next month. I just deleted the message, she has my number. I may be free next month, I may not. Either way it's not worth worrying about. If something comes of it, great; if not life goes on. They were just words.reset said:Yeah, I'm starting to realize that words don't count for much. Communication happens under the surface. You and the chick communicate without even speaking.
Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.
Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
In Motion
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"stfu"
Blue Phoenix
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I had told her "I know" lol!
dannyegg4575
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how about just, I miss you too? simple... why play these stupid games?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Blue Phoenix
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I´m gonna follow doc love "how much?"
lol
lol
Francisco d'Anconia
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That'll work too but to a lesser extent. She'll probably tell you something nice.Blue Phoenix said:I´m gonna follow doc love "how much?"
lol
Good point. It seems like you don't miss her that much.dannyegg4575 said:how about just, I miss you too? simple... why play these stupid games?