"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What if she says "I miss you"?

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What´s the course of action?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If your gut instinct feeling is telling you she is trying to manipulate you don't answer her.

If your gut instinct feeling is telling you she truly misses you go ahead and answer her.
 
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"i know." -Han Solo
 

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"But we just saw each other".
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This is a shame. Damn...you need to know how to wipe your ass too?
 

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I think Francisco has found a way to save lots and lots of time.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I think Francisco has found a way to save lots and lots of time.
You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.
 

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Yeah, I'm starting to realize that words don't count for much. Communication happens under the surface. You and the chick communicate without even speaking.

Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.

Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.
Yeah, words like "I miss you" doesn't mean anything. Don't be fooled.

She told me "I miss you" last week. She must miss me so much, that's why she didn't call me all weekend. NEXT.
 

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Yeah, I'm starting to realize that words don't count for much. Communication happens under the surface. You and the chick communicate without even speaking.

Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.

Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
I got a voice mail from a woman who I haven't seen in almost a month but had left a vm for a couple of weeks ago. She's busy working on a new degree and is preparing to speak at a big conference so she's not readily available. She says that we should plan on seeing each other some time next month. I just deleted the message, she has my number. I may be free next month, I may not. Either way it's not worth worrying about. If something comes of it, great; if not life goes on. They were just words.
 

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I had told her "I know" lol!
 

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how about just, I miss you too? simple... why play these stupid games?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I´m gonna follow doc love "how much?"

lol
 

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Blue Phoenix said:
I´m gonna follow doc love "how much?"

lol
That'll work too but to a lesser extent. She'll probably tell you something nice.
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
how about just, I miss you too? simple... why play these stupid games?
Good point. It seems like you don't miss her that much.
 
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