Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
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What´s the course of action?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.reset said:I think Francisco has found a way to save lots and lots of time.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah, words like "I miss you" doesn't mean anything. Don't be fooled.Francisco d'Anconia said:You just have to keep in mind that a woman can say just about anything for a myriad of reasons, but what really matters is what she does. Make her do something, whatever she comes up with should give you insight into her mindset.
I got a voice mail from a woman who I haven't seen in almost a month but had left a vm for a couple of weeks ago. She's busy working on a new degree and is preparing to speak at a big conference so she's not readily available. She says that we should plan on seeing each other some time next month. I just deleted the message, she has my number. I may be free next month, I may not. Either way it's not worth worrying about. If something comes of it, great; if not life goes on. They were just words.reset said:Yeah, I'm starting to realize that words don't count for much. Communication happens under the surface. You and the chick communicate without even speaking.
Many times I've thought "yeah but SHE SAID such and such, so why would she say that if---" cancel. Cut to the chase. There I just added a couple years to my life.
Otherwise you're playing her "game", and even if her game is fun and good for you, she should be playing her game according to your rulebook.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That'll work too but to a lesser extent. She'll probably tell you something nice.Blue Phoenix said:I´m gonna follow doc love "how much?"
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Good point. It seems like you don't miss her that much.dannyegg4575 said:how about just, I miss you too? simple... why play these stupid games?