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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What if a girl doesn't hold eye contact while you talk to her?

BannedGod

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Say I talk to a girl, and I constantly look at her in the eyes, but she constantly look briefly away before looking back at me. What does it mean? I'm curious :trouble:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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where's her attention going to? is she into the convo or looking for an exit?

also most people who aren't yet comfortable with you are gonna break eye contact - it's the polite thing to do. eye contact is always good but somebody staring you down probably wants to fight w/ you haha
 

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Yea she smiles a lot and I make her laugh a lot and all. I didn't really pay attention where she was looking at though, I think she was just looking up ahead.

While we are at it I got another question regarding a different chick. I've been flirting a bit with this hot girl at work (HB8)... Well I've only seen twice, but both times I was, and she seemed to show some good interest signs, but I recently found out that she has a boyfriend (through facebook, she didn't tell me). So assuming I keep flirting with her and she keeps being responsive (before I ask her out) without mentioning her BF, could this mean she has heavy interest in me? And I'm assuming if I ask her out and she says yes, she IS interested hahah.
 

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Usually when you are having a conversation with someone the listener will look at the speaker most of the time. The speaker on the other hand gives less eye contact. If she is looking away it could mean several things:
-She isn't interested
-She's looking for somebody
-She's shy and intimidated, she has a hard time holding eye contact
-She just goes about having conversations with non-conventional eye contact
It's really impossible for us to tell you without seeing it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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cyraid said:
Usually when you are having a conversation with someone the listener will look at the speaker most of the time. The speaker on the other hand gives less eye contact. If she is looking away it could mean several things:
-She isn't interested
-She's looking for somebody
-She's shy and intimidated, she has a hard time holding eye contact
-She just goes about having conversations with non-conventional eye contact
It's really impossible for us to tell you without seeing it.
Mmmmh I think she doesn't hold eye contact mostly when she talks. Whatever it's no big deal really. I'll just ask her out next time I see her, if she says yes and don't flunk me, she's interested. Otherwise she can rot in hell.
 

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BannedGod said:
Say I talk to a girl, and I constantly look at her in the eyes, but she constantly look briefly away before looking back at me. What does it mean? I'm curious :trouble:

She is bored as hell and you don't look like Brad.
 

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could be that recently she had a load shot in her eyes and they still burn.
 

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Most of the time, at least for me, it means they're shy like mentioned before. You can tell if they're shy if they look away quickly as if it was a reaction.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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