"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What if a girl doesn't hold eye contact while you talk to her?

BannedGod

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Say I talk to a girl, and I constantly look at her in the eyes, but she constantly look briefly away before looking back at me. What does it mean? I'm curious :trouble:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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where's her attention going to? is she into the convo or looking for an exit?

also most people who aren't yet comfortable with you are gonna break eye contact - it's the polite thing to do. eye contact is always good but somebody staring you down probably wants to fight w/ you haha
 

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Yea she smiles a lot and I make her laugh a lot and all. I didn't really pay attention where she was looking at though, I think she was just looking up ahead.

While we are at it I got another question regarding a different chick. I've been flirting a bit with this hot girl at work (HB8)... Well I've only seen twice, but both times I was, and she seemed to show some good interest signs, but I recently found out that she has a boyfriend (through facebook, she didn't tell me). So assuming I keep flirting with her and she keeps being responsive (before I ask her out) without mentioning her BF, could this mean she has heavy interest in me? And I'm assuming if I ask her out and she says yes, she IS interested hahah.
 

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Usually when you are having a conversation with someone the listener will look at the speaker most of the time. The speaker on the other hand gives less eye contact. If she is looking away it could mean several things:
-She isn't interested
-She's looking for somebody
-She's shy and intimidated, she has a hard time holding eye contact
-She just goes about having conversations with non-conventional eye contact
It's really impossible for us to tell you without seeing it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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cyraid said:
Usually when you are having a conversation with someone the listener will look at the speaker most of the time. The speaker on the other hand gives less eye contact. If she is looking away it could mean several things:
-She isn't interested
-She's looking for somebody
-She's shy and intimidated, she has a hard time holding eye contact
-She just goes about having conversations with non-conventional eye contact
It's really impossible for us to tell you without seeing it.
Mmmmh I think she doesn't hold eye contact mostly when she talks. Whatever it's no big deal really. I'll just ask her out next time I see her, if she says yes and don't flunk me, she's interested. Otherwise she can rot in hell.
 

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BannedGod said:
Say I talk to a girl, and I constantly look at her in the eyes, but she constantly look briefly away before looking back at me. What does it mean? I'm curious :trouble:

She is bored as hell and you don't look like Brad.
 

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could be that recently she had a load shot in her eyes and they still burn.
 

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Most of the time, at least for me, it means they're shy like mentioned before. You can tell if they're shy if they look away quickly as if it was a reaction.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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