"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What if a girl doesn't hold eye contact while you talk to her?

BannedGod

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Say I talk to a girl, and I constantly look at her in the eyes, but she constantly look briefly away before looking back at me. What does it mean? I'm curious :trouble:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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where's her attention going to? is she into the convo or looking for an exit?

also most people who aren't yet comfortable with you are gonna break eye contact - it's the polite thing to do. eye contact is always good but somebody staring you down probably wants to fight w/ you haha
 

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Yea she smiles a lot and I make her laugh a lot and all. I didn't really pay attention where she was looking at though, I think she was just looking up ahead.

While we are at it I got another question regarding a different chick. I've been flirting a bit with this hot girl at work (HB8)... Well I've only seen twice, but both times I was, and she seemed to show some good interest signs, but I recently found out that she has a boyfriend (through facebook, she didn't tell me). So assuming I keep flirting with her and she keeps being responsive (before I ask her out) without mentioning her BF, could this mean she has heavy interest in me? And I'm assuming if I ask her out and she says yes, she IS interested hahah.
 

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Usually when you are having a conversation with someone the listener will look at the speaker most of the time. The speaker on the other hand gives less eye contact. If she is looking away it could mean several things:
-She isn't interested
-She's looking for somebody
-She's shy and intimidated, she has a hard time holding eye contact
-She just goes about having conversations with non-conventional eye contact
It's really impossible for us to tell you without seeing it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cyraid said:
Usually when you are having a conversation with someone the listener will look at the speaker most of the time. The speaker on the other hand gives less eye contact. If she is looking away it could mean several things:
-She isn't interested
-She's looking for somebody
-She's shy and intimidated, she has a hard time holding eye contact
-She just goes about having conversations with non-conventional eye contact
It's really impossible for us to tell you without seeing it.
Mmmmh I think she doesn't hold eye contact mostly when she talks. Whatever it's no big deal really. I'll just ask her out next time I see her, if she says yes and don't flunk me, she's interested. Otherwise she can rot in hell.
 

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BannedGod said:
Say I talk to a girl, and I constantly look at her in the eyes, but she constantly look briefly away before looking back at me. What does it mean? I'm curious :trouble:

She is bored as hell and you don't look like Brad.
 

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could be that recently she had a load shot in her eyes and they still burn.
 

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Most of the time, at least for me, it means they're shy like mentioned before. You can tell if they're shy if they look away quickly as if it was a reaction.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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