"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Fatal Jay

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Really? Brad is one of the guys thats been her for a long time, and drop some good game. What was he saying?
 

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Really? Brad is one of the guys thats been her for a long time, and drop some good game. What was he saying?
Been calling everyone *** guzzling faggots. Even those who agreed with him. It was about Donald Trump and he posted it in the main forum. Thread had 4 pages in one day, mostly from him insulting everyone. Then it was locked, but he would reopen it to make a post and relock it. Eventually it got deleted. Now he's banned lol
 

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that sucks, I learned alot from that dude over the years
 

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Yeah, that thread was very disturbing. I don't think I've seen anyone break that many forum rules in one thread. He did have some good points about game that he posted throughout the years, but he also came off as arrogant and condescending to me.

Arrogance combined with validation (likes) is often a recipe for this type of thing. They get a sense that they're untouchable and start acting irresponsibly with little consideration for consequences. We've seen it before with other members here who have very strong opinions and talk down to others. Haven't seen a moderator acting like this before though.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I was shocked that he would blatantly abuse his position as a moderator.
 

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At this point, myself and the rest of the moderators and admin don't even really know what happened. We are looking into a few possibilities of stuff, especially since it seemed to come straight out of nowhere.

Also, please remember that his actions and words do NOT in any way represent the rest of the moderators and admin on this site. We all were caught off guard.
 

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Well, could it be that someone hacked into his account?
 

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@TheVirtualMind I can see 3 plausible explanations.
  1. He was always hot headed, good at hiding it and finally blew up.
  2. He got hacked.
  3. He grew tired of this forum and was going to quit anyways, thus had no motive to restrain himself anymore.
He wasn't dumb so unless he got hacked he must have known his spree would end in a ban.

I didn't think his actions represented the admins and mod team, I don't believe anyone thought that. You guys generally do a good job of moderating the forum without being too strict, that's difficult to accomplish on a forum with such controversial topics.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm so sick of the "could his account have been hacked?" as the excuse for people and their poor behavior.

Nope, that was him. Just like when you see other posters who seem stable but then start posting as if they "own the joint and can do whatever they want" - it is them as well.

We've all had moments when our ego could take over. Some people are less adept at 'checking themselves' in those moments.

As tough a pill as it is to swallow, the people who display poor behavior....well those are personality traits they contain. It's up to them to check themselves such that they dont become defining traits.

When you become a mod on this site paid or not, you agree to help control the representation f the brand.
 
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@TheVirtualMind I can see 3 plausible explanations.
  1. He was always hot headed, good at hiding it and finally blew up.
  2. He got hacked.
  3. He grew tired of this forum and was going to quit anyways, thus had no motive to restrain himself anymore.
He wasn't dumb so unless he got hacked he must have known his spree would end in a ban.

I didn't think his actions represented the admins and mod team, I don't believe anyone thought that. You guys generally do a good job of moderating the forum without being too strict, that's difficult to accomplish on a forum with such controversial topics.
I do hope that someone has connected with him in a very real way to make sure that he is legit okay in the head. I say that only because the posting spree was extremely unexpected and out of character for him.
 
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It was a pure meltdown... seeems he was high on crystal met or life just hit him bad...

Hopefully, him doing it here allowed him to avoid the ''real life meltdown'' and he could keep his composure in front of humans.

His streak lasted a whole 24-36hours... none stop... that was odd.

To Sazc... you know DaDynamically... admits he drunk rant.. he wrote it maybe times (don't let your emotions overcome facts)

Anyway, he name called me alot with Columbus... ironic that I was reading his dating guide at the same time and finding it good.

Nobody is perfect... pretending stuff here won't improve your life game... and life always win unless you beat it hard, all the time
 

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As far as him being hacked, that's one of many possibilities. The whole situation was extremely disheartening and disturbing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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politics and religon

never discuss it with strangers


as someone who struggled with this my adult life, a little humility goes a long way. he had none
 

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@Von I know da dynamically to post to everyone that he was actually cold stone sober, and in his right mind, when he posted.

Dont let your bromance influence your emotions when posting?.

Intoxicant or not there's no excuse for blatant a$$hole
 
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I would imagine that being a mod, and getting plenty of "likes" could be addicting. It might have just have been his way of making sure he got a clean break. Lots of people "pretend" to quit forums, only to keep coming back.

For example, if I decided to quit sosuave in a way so I'd NEVER be tempted to return, I'd burn as many bridges as possible on the way out. Then coming back to this time wasting circle jerk wouldn't be an option...

Maybe he was inspired by the last episode of Better Call Saul...(with the old ladies...)
 

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Wow I must have missed a hell of a thread.

What did he say? Who did he attack?
Mostly Von and ChristopherColumbus. He still flamed me and a few others a little bit too though. Work prsssures probably got to him lol
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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