"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What guys have the most haters?

Who has the most haters?

  • An Attractive guy with an attractive woman

    Votes: 8 42.1%

  • A very mediocre looking guy with an attractive woman

    Votes: 2 10.5%

  • An ugly guy with an attractive woman

    Votes: 9 47.4%
  • Total voters
    19

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wow....Attractive guys who make an effort to look good get hated on the most so far according to the poll.

Yeah, that makes alot of sense (sarcasm)
 
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None of the above. My vote is douchebags (attractive or not) with hot chicks.
 
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I'm going to go and say the opposite of everyone here and say a nice guy. The rare times a nice guy pulls off a really hot chick and walks around with her on the streets you see every jerk and douchebag out there hating on him.

I have to disagree horaholic. Most guys might be jealous of the douchebags/jocks walking around with the all the hot chicks but nobody says a thing because they are afraid of getting their ass beat!

Not only that but i'm sure many people here have seen cases of nice guys getting disrespected when walking with a hot chick. Guys openly staring/checking out even flirting with a hot chick walking with a nice guy bf are not uncommon, usually done to bring the guy down (mostly coming from jerks). You don't see people going after a guy's chick if the guy happens to be a jock or a douchebag. If the guy happens to have just the face of a nice guy it seems like it's open season on the girl hes walking with if she happens to be really hot.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My vote is for men who can easily attract any woman they want, and are generally surrounded by women. I used to hate those guys way back when I knew nothing about attraction.
 
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f283000 said:
I'm going to go and say the opposite of everyone here and say a nice guy. The rare times a nice guy pulls off a really hot chick and walks around with her on the streets you see every jerk and douchebag out there hating on him.

I have to disagree horaholic. Most guys might be jealous of the douchebags/jocks walking around with the all the hot chicks but nobody says a thing because they are afraid of getting their ass beat!

Not only that but i'm sure many people here have seen cases of nice guys getting disrespected when walking with a hot chick. Guys openly staring/checking out even flirting with a hot chick walking with a nice guy bf are not uncommon, usually done to bring the guy down (mostly coming from jerks). You don't see people going after a guy's chick if the guy happens to be a jock or a douchebag. If the guy happens to have just the face of a nice guy it seems like it's open season on the girl hes walking with if she happens to be really hot.
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That's why it's important to work out. Whether you look like a nice guy or not, dudes ain't going to mess with you if you look jacked.
 
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The more haters you have, the better. Back in my nicer guy days I would have laughed at that, but it's true. It's like Arnold said, "Everybody pities the weak. Jealousy you have to earn." Let's be honest, that's what haters are; if they sincerely thought you were beneath them, they wouldn't pay attention to you at all. They make the effort to "hate" on you as a way of dealing with the fact that you make them feel inferior.

I am highly experienced on this subject.

I have the most haters. I'm tall, muscular, very handsome, and speak with power and eloquence. In situations where guys are vying for the attention of women, I am the gold standard to which they are compared, and they don't like it. Married men don't want me around their wives. Every bar I enter serves "haterade" but I guess I'm the only one not drinking it.

Haters are guys living in a reactive world instead of creating their own. Hate is "Beta".
 
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f283000 said:
I'm going to go and say the opposite of everyone here and say a nice guy. The rare times a nice guy pulls off a really hot chick and walks around with her on the streets you see every jerk and douchebag out there hating on him.

I have to disagree horaholic. Most guys might be jealous of the douchebags/jocks walking around with the all the hot chicks but nobody says a thing because they are afraid of getting their ass beat!

Not only that but i'm sure many people here have seen cases of nice guys getting disrespected when walking with a hot chick. Guys openly staring/checking out even flirting with a hot chick walking with a nice guy bf are not uncommon, usually done to bring the guy down (mostly coming from jerks). You don't see people going after a guy's chick if the guy happens to be a jock or a douchebag. If the guy happens to have just the face of a nice guy it seems like it's open season on the girl hes walking with if she happens to be really hot.
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That's why it's important to work out. Whether you look like a nice guy or not, dudes ain't going to mess with you if you look jacked.
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it's one of those situation were they're thinkin
"she goin out with HIM?",
they don't take the guy seriously or think of him as a threat.

the most extreme situation of seen of this was on a show.

i remember watchin an episode of true life.
this guy who was skinny and looked nerdy was dating this fine a$$ black chick who was a stripper.
the couple's walkin through the parkin lot of a club and every guy there was lookin at her, cat callin and tryin to flirt with her.
after they showed the clip the couple talked about how that happens everywhere they go because guys can't believe he's datin her.
from what i saw on the show the guy seemed passive.
 
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