"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What guys have the most haters?

Who has the most haters?

  • An Attractive guy with an attractive woman

    Votes: 8 42.1%
  • A very mediocre looking guy with an attractive woman

    Votes: 2 10.5%
  • An ugly guy with an attractive woman

    Votes: 9 47.4%

  • Total voters
    19

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Belmar2009

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Wow....Attractive guys who make an effort to look good get hated on the most so far according to the poll.

Yeah, that makes alot of sense (sarcasm)
 

horaholic

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None of the above. My vote is douchebags (attractive or not) with hot chicks.
 

f283000

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I'm going to go and say the opposite of everyone here and say a nice guy. The rare times a nice guy pulls off a really hot chick and walks around with her on the streets you see every jerk and douchebag out there hating on him.

I have to disagree horaholic. Most guys might be jealous of the douchebags/jocks walking around with the all the hot chicks but nobody says a thing because they are afraid of getting their ass beat!

Not only that but i'm sure many people here have seen cases of nice guys getting disrespected when walking with a hot chick. Guys openly staring/checking out even flirting with a hot chick walking with a nice guy bf are not uncommon, usually done to bring the guy down (mostly coming from jerks). You don't see people going after a guy's chick if the guy happens to be a jock or a douchebag. If the guy happens to have just the face of a nice guy it seems like it's open season on the girl hes walking with if she happens to be really hot.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Desdinova

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My vote is for men who can easily attract any woman they want, and are generally surrounded by women. I used to hate those guys way back when I knew nothing about attraction.
 

speakeasy

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f283000 said:
I'm going to go and say the opposite of everyone here and say a nice guy. The rare times a nice guy pulls off a really hot chick and walks around with her on the streets you see every jerk and douchebag out there hating on him.

I have to disagree horaholic. Most guys might be jealous of the douchebags/jocks walking around with the all the hot chicks but nobody says a thing because they are afraid of getting their ass beat!

Not only that but i'm sure many people here have seen cases of nice guys getting disrespected when walking with a hot chick. Guys openly staring/checking out even flirting with a hot chick walking with a nice guy bf are not uncommon, usually done to bring the guy down (mostly coming from jerks). You don't see people going after a guy's chick if the guy happens to be a jock or a douchebag. If the guy happens to have just the face of a nice guy it seems like it's open season on the girl hes walking with if she happens to be really hot.
That's why it's important to work out. Whether you look like a nice guy or not, dudes ain't going to mess with you if you look jacked.
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

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The more haters you have, the better. Back in my nicer guy days I would have laughed at that, but it's true. It's like Arnold said, "Everybody pities the weak. Jealousy you have to earn." Let's be honest, that's what haters are; if they sincerely thought you were beneath them, they wouldn't pay attention to you at all. They make the effort to "hate" on you as a way of dealing with the fact that you make them feel inferior.

I am highly experienced on this subject.

I have the most haters. I'm tall, muscular, very handsome, and speak with power and eloquence. In situations where guys are vying for the attention of women, I am the gold standard to which they are compared, and they don't like it. Married men don't want me around their wives. Every bar I enter serves "haterade" but I guess I'm the only one not drinking it.

Haters are guys living in a reactive world instead of creating their own. Hate is "Beta".
 

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f283000 said:
I'm going to go and say the opposite of everyone here and say a nice guy. The rare times a nice guy pulls off a really hot chick and walks around with her on the streets you see every jerk and douchebag out there hating on him.

I have to disagree horaholic. Most guys might be jealous of the douchebags/jocks walking around with the all the hot chicks but nobody says a thing because they are afraid of getting their ass beat!

Not only that but i'm sure many people here have seen cases of nice guys getting disrespected when walking with a hot chick. Guys openly staring/checking out even flirting with a hot chick walking with a nice guy bf are not uncommon, usually done to bring the guy down (mostly coming from jerks). You don't see people going after a guy's chick if the guy happens to be a jock or a douchebag. If the guy happens to have just the face of a nice guy it seems like it's open season on the girl hes walking with if she happens to be really hot.
That's why it's important to work out. Whether you look like a nice guy or not, dudes ain't going to mess with you if you look jacked.
it's one of those situation were they're thinkin
"she goin out with HIM?",
they don't take the guy seriously or think of him as a threat.

the most extreme situation of seen of this was on a show.

i remember watchin an episode of true life.
this guy who was skinny and looked nerdy was dating this fine a$$ black chick who was a stripper.
the couple's walkin through the parkin lot of a club and every guy there was lookin at her, cat callin and tryin to flirt with her.
after they showed the clip the couple talked about how that happens everywhere they go because guys can't believe he's datin her.
from what i saw on the show the guy seemed passive.
 
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