ImmortalDragon
Don Juan
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I need some help here <_< >_>
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What got you to approach that first girl?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Master Don Juan
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My first approach was a group of girls at the pool playing ball. I was doing laps, and the ball missed me by a hair, either by accident or on purpose 
. It went on from there. While I never approached before, I thought it to be too perfect an opportunity to waste. I didn't get numbers, made a lot of mistakes (like letting their IL drop because I hung out with them for the rest of the day, and didn't ask for number fast enough). But I still went home happy because I found something I didn't know I had - cahoonas made of steel
. It went on from there. While I never approached before, I thought it to be too perfect an opportunity to waste. I didn't get numbers, made a lot of mistakes (like letting their IL drop because I hung out with them for the rest of the day, and didn't ask for number fast enough). But I still went home happy because I found something I didn't know I had - cahoonas made of steel shagnscoob
Senior Don Juan
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well the first few times i really approached a girl it was because we had hardcore eye contact going on, like way more than most DJs would need to consider approaching
its really encouraging to get that kinda EC, it just makes you feel like she wants you to (which she probably does at that point)
its really encouraging to get that kinda EC, it just makes you feel like she wants you to (which she probably does at that point)
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
3 weeks of promoising myself i would go up and talk to her and never could (and my best freind saying "you still havent aproched her") eventualy i just did it, i was slightly nervous, she was with 2 freinds and the second the attention went away from me, (with in a minute) i walked off with out saying bye
now i am more confident and do a much better job of approching.