"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What exactly is flirting
- Thread starter Prodoge
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I tend to banter with everyone, to not be misread. It's fun!
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Establishing eye contact, building that cexual bond. Looking at eachother and feeling that cexual heat, she looks at you like she is about to svck your d1ck and you look back like your about to shove it in her. That's cexual attraction.
Look at her winking, getting a wink back with a little smile, that's flirting.
Even catching eye contact then smile is called flirting, a girl will know your trying to flirt with her.
Just body language that communicates, I would like to embrace or get to know you in a romantic way is called flirting.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
It depends, usually after you've built a little rapport. But if it's someone you already know then right away. You start to 'flirt' when you want to push boundaries a little from casual to sexy.... if she flirts back you've been given the green light to escalate.
Just about anything, a little teasing and innuendo works fairly well, eye contact is a must. If she touches you, then touch her back, go from there, but some chicks just like to flirt, and nothing is going to happen, these gals are great to practice on if you are learning how to do this. Married chicks in the 30s are the best to practice on, they like to flirt and if they've been married for a few years, sh!ts getting stale and they appreciate the attention.
Chicks dig attention, flirting is a form of attention. It's not really about putting out a sexual vibe... it's more about testing the waters to see if it's warm or cold.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
zekko
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I agree, you could be having the simplest of conversations and still be flirting. It's not really about what you're saying, it's more about the vibe and attitude behind it.