"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What does this mean?
- Thread starter B0redandl0nely
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
nah big dave is postwall
RickTheToad
Moderator
I think he's 27 - 29.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Why did you post this?
RickTheToad
Moderator
Watch the video dude. It's the future if things don't change between the ladies and gents.
In all seriousness, you need to speak to someone and work on your self esteem.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
why are you oversensitive to everything
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Poor mental health. Doubt, worry, and insecurity. Yet I continue to put myself out there to date, go to school, and work. I think I deserve some credit
Insecure and worried about what?
I think we are in weird times, every girl overconfident and men worried
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Insecure and worried about how I come across, if things will work out, how to handle situations, things like that...
Trust me im expert in this topic. Its likely either cuz u get no validation or cuz ur social life is inexistent
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Both
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
And me not kissing her in the restaurant was weird to me. In retrospect, I would have done it. There was definitely sexual tension and I think that's what prompted her. And I fvcking dissipated it. WHY?!?!?
dude it turned her on more
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
OP, you really need to learn how to forgive yourself. So you messed up with the pda thing. So what? You’re allowed. Next time you’ll be a little more aware and will try something different.
Life is about trying things, learning from the results, and making corrections.
When a baby is learning to walk and it falls on its ass hundreds of times, does it sit around and wail, “Why isn’t this working? Why didn’t I do it right this time? What’s wrong with me?”
No, it just keeps on relentlessly trying till it happens.
Forgive yourself, dude. Success is built upon many so-called “failures”. A “failed”attempt at something does not make one a failure. It’s nothing more than feedback in order to adjust your next try.
It’s the guys who are too afraid to even try who have something to worry about.
Life is about trying things, learning from the results, and making corrections.
When a baby is learning to walk and it falls on its ass hundreds of times, does it sit around and wail, “Why isn’t this working? Why didn’t I do it right this time? What’s wrong with me?”
No, it just keeps on relentlessly trying till it happens.
Forgive yourself, dude. Success is built upon many so-called “failures”. A “failed”attempt at something does not make one a failure. It’s nothing more than feedback in order to adjust your next try.
It’s the guys who are too afraid to even try who have something to worry about.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
She called me today and said she wanted be friends. Yet she wanted to express affection in a restaurant two days ago. What is going on here?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
She is not attracted to you. Get over it like all of us do. Not every woman is going to be attracted.
A lot of people try to help you here with advice and you have absolutely no appreciation for it.
I'm a moderator so I saw your answer to me that you deleted. Your biggest problem, like most guys who come here and complain relentlessly, is that you are so self-centered that you can't see beyond yourself and you can't have gratitude for those who have been giving you their time and advice.
A lot of people try to help you here with advice and you have absolutely no appreciation for it.
I'm a moderator so I saw your answer to me that you deleted. Your biggest problem, like most guys who come here and complain relentlessly, is that you are so self-centered that you can't see beyond yourself and you can't have gratitude for those who have been giving you their time and advice.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
But she was attracted the other day?
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I just keep checking this site over and over to see if I have more replies cause I have no friends
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
So she's suddenly not feeling it?
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Troll meter redlining...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.