"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What does this mean?
- Thread starter B0redandl0nely
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nah big dave is postwall
RickTheToad
Moderator
I think he's 27 - 29.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Why did you post this?
RickTheToad
Moderator
Watch the video dude. It's the future if things don't change between the ladies and gents.
In all seriousness, you need to speak to someone and work on your self esteem.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
why are you oversensitive to everything
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Poor mental health. Doubt, worry, and insecurity. Yet I continue to put myself out there to date, go to school, and work. I think I deserve some credit
Insecure and worried about what?
I think we are in weird times, every girl overconfident and men worried
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Insecure and worried about how I come across, if things will work out, how to handle situations, things like that...
Trust me im expert in this topic. Its likely either cuz u get no validation or cuz ur social life is inexistent
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Both
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
And me not kissing her in the restaurant was weird to me. In retrospect, I would have done it. There was definitely sexual tension and I think that's what prompted her. And I fvcking dissipated it. WHY?!?!?
dude it turned her on more
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
OP, you really need to learn how to forgive yourself. So you messed up with the pda thing. So what? You’re allowed. Next time you’ll be a little more aware and will try something different.
Life is about trying things, learning from the results, and making corrections.
When a baby is learning to walk and it falls on its ass hundreds of times, does it sit around and wail, “Why isn’t this working? Why didn’t I do it right this time? What’s wrong with me?”
No, it just keeps on relentlessly trying till it happens.
Forgive yourself, dude. Success is built upon many so-called “failures”. A “failed”attempt at something does not make one a failure. It’s nothing more than feedback in order to adjust your next try.
It’s the guys who are too afraid to even try who have something to worry about.
Life is about trying things, learning from the results, and making corrections.
When a baby is learning to walk and it falls on its ass hundreds of times, does it sit around and wail, “Why isn’t this working? Why didn’t I do it right this time? What’s wrong with me?”
No, it just keeps on relentlessly trying till it happens.
Forgive yourself, dude. Success is built upon many so-called “failures”. A “failed”attempt at something does not make one a failure. It’s nothing more than feedback in order to adjust your next try.
It’s the guys who are too afraid to even try who have something to worry about.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
She called me today and said she wanted be friends. Yet she wanted to express affection in a restaurant two days ago. What is going on here?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
She is not attracted to you. Get over it like all of us do. Not every woman is going to be attracted.
A lot of people try to help you here with advice and you have absolutely no appreciation for it.
I'm a moderator so I saw your answer to me that you deleted. Your biggest problem, like most guys who come here and complain relentlessly, is that you are so self-centered that you can't see beyond yourself and you can't have gratitude for those who have been giving you their time and advice.
A lot of people try to help you here with advice and you have absolutely no appreciation for it.
I'm a moderator so I saw your answer to me that you deleted. Your biggest problem, like most guys who come here and complain relentlessly, is that you are so self-centered that you can't see beyond yourself and you can't have gratitude for those who have been giving you their time and advice.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
But she was attracted the other day?
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I just keep checking this site over and over to see if I have more replies cause I have no friends
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
So she's suddenly not feeling it?
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Troll meter redlining...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.