“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Nikar

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Hi all,

I'm an AFC learning to pick up some of the traits of a DJ. Not all, but just some traits that DJs have.
There's this HB8.5 chick at my workplace where I like.
She's pretty shy, not very talkative(unlike hors) and doesn't open up much.

We work in the same office and everything and frequently talk to each other about everyday life(our childhood, activities, what we do in the morning etc.) and say greetings everyday etc.
All along, I have never been sure whether she had a boyfriend or not, but I never asked her either.

Today, we were having dinner after work(just me and her).
Halfway, we ran out of topics to talk and I brought up a miscellaneous topic about music to break the awkward silence.
Below is our convo:

Me: So, what kind of music you listen to?
Her: Pop, rap, country, anything that sounds good. You?
Me: Mostly anything, I don't have a preference.

5 SECONDS OF AWKWARD SILENCE.

Me: So, you ever bought any portable music players, like Zune or iPod?
Her: No, not really.

1 SECOND OF QUICK SILENCE.

Her: My boyfriend bought me a portable video player.
Me: Video player? That's very cool...blah blah blah...


Obviously, I got a little bit of freaked out when she mentioned "boyfriend", but I played it totally cool, and I dunno whether I should be proud of myself.
In fact, I behaved so cooly that I didn't even bat an eyelid and my ****ing facial reaction didn't even change at all! :D

These few days, I have been pretty sweet to her(in an AFC manner), such as buying ice-cream and dividing it into two cups for us, as well as treating her to meals every now and then(not everytime).
When she gets a little fever, I would also kind of ask her and if she went to see a doctor or something.

1) Thus, when she mentions "boyfriend" in the convo above, is it to test my reaction? Or is it a casual remark?

2) If it's really a reaction tester, then was my "cool" reaction a wise one? Obviously, I'm not obessed about her and I don't want her to think I'm some crappy desperado.

3) What should my next step be?

Thanks all!
Nikar.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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KneghtRyder

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the general consensus is AFC behavior is counterproductive even though you want her to like you.
 

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Notice how bf is only brought up after 5 sec of awkward silence. Doesn't take a genius to read between the lines.

I think you should go find another girl.
 
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