frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
please tell me this is a joke Shezzler!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What does this mean (apart from the obvious)
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
oh god, dude it means she'll think about it c'ya tomorrow.
this is the second post, with the same stuff in it. either this girl is playing a game of hard to get or she's an AW.
your supplmenting her need for attention with your flirting etc.. girls with there head on straight or ACTUALLY LIKE you will not say
"i'll think about it"
if they like you, they'll either tell you WHY they can't and offer up another time, OR they'll go out with you
this is the second post, with the same stuff in it. either this girl is playing a game of hard to get or she's an AW.
your supplmenting her need for attention with your flirting etc.. girls with there head on straight or ACTUALLY LIKE you will not say
"i'll think about it"
if they like you, they'll either tell you WHY they can't and offer up another time, OR they'll go out with you
Jake-inator
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I just wasted 2 minutes of my life reading that...
spider_007
Master Don Juan
YAP!!!!!!!!!!!!
do you even have this girls NUMBER yet? i mean that can be a perfect test of how hot or cold she is to you,
if you call her and she never calls back, if your th eonly one calling, if you leave her a voicemail and she never returns it etc..
i mean jesus..
if you call her and she never calls back, if your th eonly one calling, if you leave her a voicemail and she never returns it etc..
i mean jesus..
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Jake-inator
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Mmmmm MILKSHAKES!!!!
Yea straws are great for milkshakes.
Speaking of which... I'm hijacking this thread and actually making it interesting.
This is what you get for wasting my time.
List your favorite milk shake flavors guys!!
My favorites include: Oreo, Strawberry, Banana, Cherry.
Mmmm strawberry banana is a good one too
Also how do you eat them?
Do you use a straw, spoon, spork or do you just chug it down.
Personally i love licking them off a hot girl's titties!
Yea straws are great for milkshakes.
Speaking of which... I'm hijacking this thread and actually making it interesting.
This is what you get for wasting my time.
List your favorite milk shake flavors guys!!
My favorites include: Oreo, Strawberry, Banana, Cherry.
Mmmm strawberry banana is a good one too
Also how do you eat them?
Do you use a straw, spoon, spork or do you just chug it down.
Personally i love licking them off a hot girl's titties!
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Even drop their panties, right? "oops, look what just fell down"
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Qmanchoo
Don Juan
Nice, a guy asks for help and all most people here can do is bust his balls. Well, **** I’m going to bust your balls to but I’ll tell you what went wrong.
Shezz - You said all the wrong things to this girl in the way you asked her out, gave away you manhood in cupped hands. Anyway, you need to understand where women (not *****s) are coming from in the dating world. They want a man, first and foremost, that is funny, mysterious, and dominant in life in some way, and is authentic...and by authentic I mean "He really IS a big bad biker, not just pretending to be!"
Have you displayed these things to her in the past? Probably not, and if you did she wasn’t digging that angle.
Anyway, REGARDLESS of whether or not you ARE these following things that she was probably thinking...here is the scoop as I see it.
Me: "Look i know your goin thru a bad time atm,
She thinks - Oh, he's relating to my emotions like a friend, must be an emotional tampon. how SWEEEET! (puke)
"but i like u"
*slaps head* oh man, never tell a girl you like her, EVER! It can't possibly increase her attraction for you! So why do it??
She thinks: If I ever liked you even a little, you just killed the mystery, since I don't have to chase you to get you, now all I have to do is toss my nose in the air and you'll be beggin for my approval. (However since she said I'll think about it that's called "i don't want to be flat out RUDE so give me time to come up with a bettter excuse) - or maybe she just felt awkward because she doesn't like you all that much.
"so i guarantee that a nite out with me will make you feel a whole lot better - GUARAN - damn - TEED!!"
Dude, guaran - damn - teed? Who are you busta rhymes? and who are these women that you think will respond to something like that?
This may seem harsh, but really, you nee it.
A better thing to say would have been "I'm going to X club Friday night (I already have plans regardless of you), some of my friends are coming along and they are really cool and sociable with people they don't know (I have a life, the ppl I know will be cool and you'll be comfortable around them), we are going to have great time! (fun, fun, fun!) you should come along, everyone’s meeting at my place around 8pm" (but if you don't, no big deal to me!)
BUT, keep in mind that you probably didn’t succeed with the girl because she DIDN’T like you as most people have said.
Shezz - You said all the wrong things to this girl in the way you asked her out, gave away you manhood in cupped hands. Anyway, you need to understand where women (not *****s) are coming from in the dating world. They want a man, first and foremost, that is funny, mysterious, and dominant in life in some way, and is authentic...and by authentic I mean "He really IS a big bad biker, not just pretending to be!"
Have you displayed these things to her in the past? Probably not, and if you did she wasn’t digging that angle.
Anyway, REGARDLESS of whether or not you ARE these following things that she was probably thinking...here is the scoop as I see it.
Me: "Look i know your goin thru a bad time atm,
She thinks - Oh, he's relating to my emotions like a friend, must be an emotional tampon. how SWEEEET! (puke)
"but i like u"
*slaps head* oh man, never tell a girl you like her, EVER! It can't possibly increase her attraction for you! So why do it??
She thinks: If I ever liked you even a little, you just killed the mystery, since I don't have to chase you to get you, now all I have to do is toss my nose in the air and you'll be beggin for my approval. (However since she said I'll think about it that's called "i don't want to be flat out RUDE so give me time to come up with a bettter excuse) - or maybe she just felt awkward because she doesn't like you all that much.
"so i guarantee that a nite out with me will make you feel a whole lot better - GUARAN - damn - TEED!!"
Dude, guaran - damn - teed? Who are you busta rhymes? and who are these women that you think will respond to something like that?
This may seem harsh, but really, you nee it.
A better thing to say would have been "I'm going to X club Friday night (I already have plans regardless of you), some of my friends are coming along and they are really cool and sociable with people they don't know (I have a life, the ppl I know will be cool and you'll be comfortable around them), we are going to have great time! (fun, fun, fun!) you should come along, everyone’s meeting at my place around 8pm" (but if you don't, no big deal to me!)
BUT, keep in mind that you probably didn’t succeed with the girl because she DIDN’T like you as most people have said.