"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What does it take to be influential?
- Thread starter Plinco
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
kingsam
Master Don Juan
Big J that was a boring response, i expect more from you .....BigJimbo said:
freshprince
Don Juan
BigJimbo said:
That is not necessarily true dude. They are many people in history that became prominent people of history without elite family backgrounds, for example Anne Frank-, Confucius, Martin Luther just to name a few (not Martin Luther king) a different martin who argued with the pope, searching for religious truth and creating a new kind of Christianity called Protestantism ...( I have very old book given to me by my uncle that teaches about this fight against the pope)
and many more ppl who are still influential figures.
freshprince
Don Juan
"Confidence, determination, knowledge and interpersonal skills"
"Credibility (reputation) it never hurts to have that on your side and credible
breakthrough ideas or insights that capture the general imagination".
"Consistency and courage."
"This means, you are guided by principles,
that you walk the talk, and that you are not
afraid to listen and consider."
links
* http://jd2-thegreatlight.blogspot.com
* http://tnemeganam102.blogspot.com
"Integrity. Values. Drive. Passion. Credibility."
"It doesn't take anything, you are influential by nature. Just by being there you influence people, the only thing you need to know is how you do it and the only thing that it takes is to watch and see your impact and change it if needed. You have all the sources in you to be more influential."
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.