You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
LOL how kind are these replies eheminence said:
... although that IS a possibility, it is maybe more likely that she is like that in general, she could be one of these over affectionate/over emotional girls... Girl's are also known to play with a boy's hair if she is attracted to him...I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Not sure if I know what that means but I do know what you should do about it. Start touching her back. Do you touch her at all? Start small if you haven't. Tell her she has something in her hair.. brushing it out while "accidentally" brushing her shoulder or arm too.. Or picking some lint off of her shirt or something. If you start off small like that it shouldn't be too long before you progress. My favorite thing to do if a girl is sitting in front of me in class or something and I know her kind of well.. I'll make a mean joke(not really mean but playful).. she'll say something to get me back and just be like "you know what that deserves some tickling" Tickling always works great.. You're not really trying to tickle her though. What I do is "hmm let's see where you're ticklish at".. and lightly run your fingers on her arm or back or something for a few minutes trying to "tickle" her... You can eventually progress into just scratching her back and rubbing her shoulders, neck, scratching and rubbing her head through her hair in less than 10 minutes. It worked for me and the girl was loving it. Like I said, I'm not sure what she is doing means but this will definitely get it to mean what you want to.. or at least give you what she thinks of you if you get a "what the hell are you doing" kind of look. If you don't touch her that much the key is to just start off small at first and she shouldn't have any problem with itnaes420 said:
i dont mea touch my face... i mean actualy sit there and rub my face for like 5 minutesSnow Plowman said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
half good. Half bad. First of all there is your problem. If you think the girl is cute then like I said before you need to start touching her back. Don't be obvious about it but it should not be hard if she is touching you. And the not giving her attention maybe a good thing. If you never start interaction with her and she still tries to talk to you then she is interested. Just try touching her more and you might be suprisednaes420 said:
in a way the 0 attention thing helps alot cause the girls always tend to get super interested thats mabye why she even rubs my face and calls me thngs liek baby etc...mabye to get my attention more??The Dalton said:
Come on man, you've been here since september 2006; I am sure you have read the bible and some of the tips posted on this website.naes420 said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.