Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LOL how kind are these replies eheminence said:
... although that IS a possibility, it is maybe more likely that she is like that in general, she could be one of these over affectionate/over emotional girls... Girl's are also known to play with a boy's hair if she is attracted to him...You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Not sure if I know what that means but I do know what you should do about it. Start touching her back. Do you touch her at all? Start small if you haven't. Tell her she has something in her hair.. brushing it out while "accidentally" brushing her shoulder or arm too.. Or picking some lint off of her shirt or something. If you start off small like that it shouldn't be too long before you progress. My favorite thing to do if a girl is sitting in front of me in class or something and I know her kind of well.. I'll make a mean joke(not really mean but playful).. she'll say something to get me back and just be like "you know what that deserves some tickling" Tickling always works great.. You're not really trying to tickle her though. What I do is "hmm let's see where you're ticklish at".. and lightly run your fingers on her arm or back or something for a few minutes trying to "tickle" her... You can eventually progress into just scratching her back and rubbing her shoulders, neck, scratching and rubbing her head through her hair in less than 10 minutes. It worked for me and the girl was loving it. Like I said, I'm not sure what she is doing means but this will definitely get it to mean what you want to.. or at least give you what she thinks of you if you get a "what the hell are you doing" kind of look. If you don't touch her that much the key is to just start off small at first and she shouldn't have any problem with itnaes420 said:
i dont mea touch my face... i mean actualy sit there and rub my face for like 5 minutesSnow Plowman said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
half good. Half bad. First of all there is your problem. If you think the girl is cute then like I said before you need to start touching her back. Don't be obvious about it but it should not be hard if she is touching you. And the not giving her attention maybe a good thing. If you never start interaction with her and she still tries to talk to you then she is interested. Just try touching her more and you might be suprisednaes420 said:
in a way the 0 attention thing helps alot cause the girls always tend to get super interested thats mabye why she even rubs my face and calls me thngs liek baby etc...mabye to get my attention more??The Dalton said:
Come on man, you've been here since september 2006; I am sure you have read the bible and some of the tips posted on this website.naes420 said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.