You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
LOL how kind are these replies eheminence said:
... although that IS a possibility, it is maybe more likely that she is like that in general, she could be one of these over affectionate/over emotional girls... Girl's are also known to play with a boy's hair if she is attracted to him...Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not sure if I know what that means but I do know what you should do about it. Start touching her back. Do you touch her at all? Start small if you haven't. Tell her she has something in her hair.. brushing it out while "accidentally" brushing her shoulder or arm too.. Or picking some lint off of her shirt or something. If you start off small like that it shouldn't be too long before you progress. My favorite thing to do if a girl is sitting in front of me in class or something and I know her kind of well.. I'll make a mean joke(not really mean but playful).. she'll say something to get me back and just be like "you know what that deserves some tickling" Tickling always works great.. You're not really trying to tickle her though. What I do is "hmm let's see where you're ticklish at".. and lightly run your fingers on her arm or back or something for a few minutes trying to "tickle" her... You can eventually progress into just scratching her back and rubbing her shoulders, neck, scratching and rubbing her head through her hair in less than 10 minutes. It worked for me and the girl was loving it. Like I said, I'm not sure what she is doing means but this will definitely get it to mean what you want to.. or at least give you what she thinks of you if you get a "what the hell are you doing" kind of look. If you don't touch her that much the key is to just start off small at first and she shouldn't have any problem with itnaes420 said:
i dont mea touch my face... i mean actualy sit there and rub my face for like 5 minutesSnow Plowman said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
half good. Half bad. First of all there is your problem. If you think the girl is cute then like I said before you need to start touching her back. Don't be obvious about it but it should not be hard if she is touching you. And the not giving her attention maybe a good thing. If you never start interaction with her and she still tries to talk to you then she is interested. Just try touching her more and you might be suprisednaes420 said:
in a way the 0 attention thing helps alot cause the girls always tend to get super interested thats mabye why she even rubs my face and calls me thngs liek baby etc...mabye to get my attention more??The Dalton said:
Come on man, you've been here since september 2006; I am sure you have read the bible and some of the tips posted on this website.naes420 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.