Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
LOL how kind are these replies eheminence said:
... although that IS a possibility, it is maybe more likely that she is like that in general, she could be one of these over affectionate/over emotional girls... Girl's are also known to play with a boy's hair if she is attracted to him...Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Not sure if I know what that means but I do know what you should do about it. Start touching her back. Do you touch her at all? Start small if you haven't. Tell her she has something in her hair.. brushing it out while "accidentally" brushing her shoulder or arm too.. Or picking some lint off of her shirt or something. If you start off small like that it shouldn't be too long before you progress. My favorite thing to do if a girl is sitting in front of me in class or something and I know her kind of well.. I'll make a mean joke(not really mean but playful).. she'll say something to get me back and just be like "you know what that deserves some tickling" Tickling always works great.. You're not really trying to tickle her though. What I do is "hmm let's see where you're ticklish at".. and lightly run your fingers on her arm or back or something for a few minutes trying to "tickle" her... You can eventually progress into just scratching her back and rubbing her shoulders, neck, scratching and rubbing her head through her hair in less than 10 minutes. It worked for me and the girl was loving it. Like I said, I'm not sure what she is doing means but this will definitely get it to mean what you want to.. or at least give you what she thinks of you if you get a "what the hell are you doing" kind of look. If you don't touch her that much the key is to just start off small at first and she shouldn't have any problem with itnaes420 said:
i dont mea touch my face... i mean actualy sit there and rub my face for like 5 minutesSnow Plowman said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
half good. Half bad. First of all there is your problem. If you think the girl is cute then like I said before you need to start touching her back. Don't be obvious about it but it should not be hard if she is touching you. And the not giving her attention maybe a good thing. If you never start interaction with her and she still tries to talk to you then she is interested. Just try touching her more and you might be suprisednaes420 said:
in a way the 0 attention thing helps alot cause the girls always tend to get super interested thats mabye why she even rubs my face and calls me thngs liek baby etc...mabye to get my attention more??The Dalton said:
Come on man, you've been here since september 2006; I am sure you have read the bible and some of the tips posted on this website.naes420 said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.