You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.WesCottII said:When she says she broke up with her fiance, read that she's broke up with her fiance. Simple. Keep gaming as you would normally.
We'd go mad if we tried to analyse everything.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I see your point, but generally, my seductions DO follow a set pattern. I make her laugh, we have a brilliant time in each others company, and she wants to see me again if she wants more of the same.Microphone Fiend said:you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.
The point is you cannot be an autonomous seducer. You would treat women the same if you know nothing about any of them, but once you have personal facts and beliefs, you'd be a fool to ignore them....
drmeathead said:when chicks talk about there ex pretend they arent even speaking...
:woo: "Danger Will Robinson, Danger!!!" :woo:gimmeyofonenumba said:I met a girl the other night and called her today, and talked a bit and set something up. At one point in the convo, she told me how she had just broke up with her ex-fiance, and later reffered to him as her fiance later on but corrected heself....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.