Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.WesCottII said:When she says she broke up with her fiance, read that she's broke up with her fiance. Simple. Keep gaming as you would normally.
We'd go mad if we tried to analyse everything.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I see your point, but generally, my seductions DO follow a set pattern. I make her laugh, we have a brilliant time in each others company, and she wants to see me again if she wants more of the same.Microphone Fiend said:you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.
The point is you cannot be an autonomous seducer. You would treat women the same if you know nothing about any of them, but once you have personal facts and beliefs, you'd be a fool to ignore them....
drmeathead said:when chicks talk about there ex pretend they arent even speaking...
:woo: "Danger Will Robinson, Danger!!!" :woo:gimmeyofonenumba said:I met a girl the other night and called her today, and talked a bit and set something up. At one point in the convo, she told me how she had just broke up with her ex-fiance, and later reffered to him as her fiance later on but corrected heself....
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.