Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.WesCottII said:When she says she broke up with her fiance, read that she's broke up with her fiance. Simple. Keep gaming as you would normally.
We'd go mad if we tried to analyse everything.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I see your point, but generally, my seductions DO follow a set pattern. I make her laugh, we have a brilliant time in each others company, and she wants to see me again if she wants more of the same.Microphone Fiend said:you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.
The point is you cannot be an autonomous seducer. You would treat women the same if you know nothing about any of them, but once you have personal facts and beliefs, you'd be a fool to ignore them....
drmeathead said:when chicks talk about there ex pretend they arent even speaking...
:woo: "Danger Will Robinson, Danger!!!" :woo:gimmeyofonenumba said:I met a girl the other night and called her today, and talked a bit and set something up. At one point in the convo, she told me how she had just broke up with her ex-fiance, and later reffered to him as her fiance later on but corrected heself....
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.